Break Free From Bad Habits and Mental illness This Way

Our brains are remarkable, but it's important to understand which parts are responsible for the decisions we make and how our experiences shape us.

The part of the brain that governs responsibility and rational decision-making is the prefrontal cortex, located at the front of the brain. Interestingly, while a child's brain is mostly formed by the age of 6 or 7, the prefrontal cortex continues developing well into early adulthood-around 25 years of age. This means that while early experiences lay the foundation of our thought patterns, our ability to make reasoned decisions continues to grow for many years.

The Quran even alludes to this. It describes those who act unjustly as being held accountable for the "lying, sinful forelock," a reference to the part of the brain responsible for judgment and decision-making. This emphasizes that while much of our brain is shaped by our upbringing, we are ultimately responsible for the decisions made by our mature, rational mind.

How Habits Form and How to Change Them

Habits, whether good or bad, follow a predictable pattern. Every habit begins with a thought. If we dwell on it, it becomes an idea. Ignoring it can lead to a plan, then an action, and with repetition, this action solidifies into a habit. If unchecked, bad habits can even turn into addictions.

The good news is that this process works in reverse as well. By deliberately creating positive thoughts and acting on them repeatedly, we can retrain our brain. For example, a young person may develop a habit of watching inappropriate content online. By consciously deciding to replace this behavior with productive activities, blocking harmful websites, and practicing self-control, the brain can form new, healthier pathways-a process known as neuroplasticity.

Overcoming Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety is intense, excessive worry about situations that often never happen. Physiological responses, such as rapid heartbeat, sweating, and fatigue, are common. Most of our fears-99% in fact-never come true. Understanding this can help reduce unnecessary anxiety.

Depression, on the other hand, is more complex. It involves persistent sadness and a loss of interest in normal activities. It can stem from failures, stressful life events, or prolonged feelings of low self-worth. However, it's crucial not to self-diagnose. Experiencing temporary sadness or anxiety does not make one mentally ill. True mental health conditions are intense, persistent, and debilitating, requiring professional assessment.

One practical approach to overcoming anxiety and depression is to take action despite fear. For example, someone afraid of heights might start small, gradually confronting their fear. Success, even in small steps, builds confidence and reinforces positive brain patterns.

Practical Steps for Personal Growth

1. Recognize your thoughts: Identify negative or harmful thought patterns.
2. Plan and act deliberately: Transform positive ideas into actionable steps.
3. Practice repetition: Habits are formed through repeated actions.
4. Seek support: Family, friends, and professional guidance can assist you.
5. Rely on your faith: Spiritual practice can complement personal and professional growth.

Remember, growth is a gradual process. Neuroplasticity allows your brain to adapt, but patience, consistency, and effort are essential.

Finally, anyone struggling with prolonged mental health issues should seek professional help, including qualified Muslim psychologists. Combining professional guidance with faith and deliberate action can lead to profound and lasting personal transformation.