What Do You Need to Know Before Getting Married?


Marriage is a significant milestone in life, but why are we getting married? Dr. Haiffa challenges us to think beyond societal norms and reflect on the true purpose of marriage.

In today’s world, people often marry because "everyone else is doing it," or because it’s seen as the next logical step in life. But is that the right reason?

Dr. Haiffa highlights how people often view marriage and children as a way to secure support in old age. However, children should not be seen as mere caretakers. The true purpose of marriage in Islam is to please Allah and follow His Sunnah. It’s an act of worship, not just a worldly milestone.

The Real Reasons for Marriage

Dr. Haiffa points out that in choosing a spouse, we should prioritize faith, character, and shared values over material wealth or social status. The question is: would you choose someone who is well-established in life but doesn't pray, or someone who prays but is still working on their career? It's important to look beyond worldly factors and focus on what truly matters—faith and character.

Don't Marry Just for the Sake of It

Marriage should not be about fulfilling societal expectations. Dr. Haiffa warns against marrying simply because it’s the norm or everyone else is doing it. Instead, choose a partner for the sake of Allah, understanding that marriage is a spiritual act. Keep praying for guidance, and seek a partner who aligns with your values and faith.

As you consider marriage, ask yourself: Why am I getting married? Make sure your decision is rooted in faith, love, and the desire to build a relationship that pleases Allah. Marriage is more than just a societal milestone; it’s a meaningful choice that shapes your future and spiritual growth.


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