Agree to Disagree

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With respect to the perception of truth, disagreement is an ancient phenomenon in the intellectual history of mankind. The belief that there is only "One Truth" does not detract from the possibility of how it is arrived at. This is a matter open to everyone to pursue within his or her social and intellectual means. This pursuit however, should not be to serve a person's self interest.

We must take into consideration the fact that our intellectual life is based on an exchange of opinions and ideas that vary. This often reflects distinct cultural, sociological, psychological and intellectual influences. Diversity leads to differences in perspective and understanding and naturally to some disagreement. Differences of opinion are inevitable wherever people possess intellect and honesty.

Accepting differences

When analyzing our history, it appears obvious that advanced and intellectually honest societies were able to profit from disagreement. Diversity fosters variety and thus a myriad of potentials. Civilized individuals respect other people and therefore have the tendency to respect the opinions of others.

Those who are ethically impoverished, emotionally overcharged and intellectually barren, have an inclination to be so dogmatic as to use differences of opinion as a barrier between themselves and others with whom they differ. This often leads to disputes that cause disrespect for others and off others.

It is only gross ignorance and egoism that leads any person to blasphemously believe that there is no room for disputing his or her opinion. It is unfortunate that this inability to accept and respect other people's opinion is so deep rooted in our socio-political environment that it is often considered part of religiosity. Many religious leaders, organizations and institutions have not rid themselves of that destructive and predictable legacy of desiring to be contentious rather than conciliatory.

Moderation

Balance and moderation are not only supposed to be inherent characteristics of true Believers, they are fundamental landmarks of Islam. Allah says:

"Thus have We made you an Ummah justly balanced,
that you may be a testimony to the world community". (2:143)

The lack of moderation often manifests itself through harshness in treatment of people, arrogance in attitude, roughness in manner and crudeness in expression. The communicative method of those who are immoderate tends to be abusive, always criticizing, sermonizing or even berating others well past the point of legitimate communication and disregarding the moral obligation of respect. Their communication transgresses a reasonable attempt to inform or even persuade - it becomes a harangue. It is as if the speaker is engaged in a campaign to beat those, who differ with him into submission rather than simply convey a point of view, pummeling them with repetitive opinion, complaints or demands. If the desired response is not given, the speaker simply restates the point more loudly or aggressively.

Even if it were to be told to one of these ardently opinionated people that their position has been heard, understood and considered this rarely stops the onslaught. The only way such people will believe that their point is understood is if everyone agrees with it. They can become so self-righteous that they truly believe disagreement with them is proof of confusion, ignorance, stupidity, treachery, hypocrisy or even kufr.

It is one thing to assert the primacy of universal virtues like goodness and justice; it is quite another to exclusively claim the cloak of universal truth on opinions dealing with matters on which knowledgeable people disagree.

Differing as Muslims in an un-Islamic manner

"My opinion is correct but the possibility of error exists."
- Imam Shafi'i 

The Qur'an has declared the followers of Prophet Muhammad as Ummatan Waahidah (single global community), as Ikhwa (a fraternity); and has distinctly warned against infighting (8:46 Quran). It is ironic that the present-day Muslim society often manifests the very antithesis of these descriptions and pays no heed to this warning.

The vast majority of our internal battles are a consequence of dogmatism and narrowly defined self interests. We have made Islam which is a simple and universal foundation of good into a source of major conflicts and infighting over insignificant issues. We have turned minor points of jurisprudence into major ideological conflicts. Sadly, all of this is in the holy name of Islam.

Betraying a noble tradition

The Mujtahideen (experts in Islamic Law) differed and disagreed yet maintained a high regard for one another. Imam Abu Hanifah said, "If it were not for the two years that I accompanied Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq, I would have perished." These exemplary scholars were neither self-righteous nor dogmatic. When the Abbasid Caliph al-Mansur expressed his intention of attaching Imam Malik's Al-Muwatta (book of hadith) to the Ka'bah and obliging people to follow it, Imam Malik himself opposed the idea. He advocated that people in different parts of the Muslim world may have received differing information. He urged the Caliph al-Mansur to leave people to follow in accordance with the knowledge they had received and not to narrow down or to limit which Allah and His Messenger have left without bounds.

Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal pleaded, "Do not follow me or Malik or Shafi'i or Awzaai or Thawri, and rather take from the source (Qur'an and Sunnah) from which we have taken." The great jurist Imam Shafi'i is reported to have said: "I never argue with anyone without praying that Allah may put the truth on the tongue of that person." He also said: "My opinion is correct but the possibility of error exists." The differing opinions of great scholars and those well-versed help to illuminate the multi-dimensions of an issue and varying interpretations. This brings about a degree of flexibility that the law requires to meet the needs demanded by the vicissitudes of ever-changing times.

Etiquette and social interest

Problems usually arise due to four main reasons:

  • People overstate their differences.

  • They attribute to themselves a degree of infallibility and consider their opinion to be the ultimate view, almost as if God's revelation is merely a substantiation of their perspective.

  • Vested interests that cause people to undermine others (particularly those who are more successful than themselves or to deflect criticism of their own shortcomings).

  • When groups become excessively partisan to one opinion over another.

As Muslims we need to realize that differing does not necessarily imply opposing. Within the broad spectrum of shared knowledge and difference of opinion, there is also the uniting factor of mutual respect and the greater interest of the community.


Sadullah Khan completed memorization of the Quran and furthered his studies in Law in South Africa, Journalism in England and Islamic Studies in Egypt. As a motivational speaker he addresses issues of spirituality, empowerment. He is the author of the book "Dimensions of the Qur'an" and translator of "Message For The Seekers Of Guidance". He has served in several roles in Universities and Islamic Centers in Southern California and is currently involved with Impower Development International based in South Africa.

You can watch his lectures on Empowerment at IslamiTV

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Older Comments:
AYUBA SANI FROM ETHIOPIA said:
This is an interesting article.i appreciate the writer.
2005-02-24

AHMAD FROM US said:
A very well written article.
One that shows maturity, understanding and an open mind. I personally congratulate you for this article. It was articulated with style.
Ahmad
2004-09-22

ULYSSES ABDUL-AZIZ FROM UNITED STATES said:
This article highlights a distrubing trend concerning those who profess to practice islam. As one of the great imams was quoted as saying "do not so much follow him but follow the Quran and sunnah." It we as an ummah were to get back to the Quran and follow its guidiance and apply it in our everyday life to the best of our abilities; it is the opinon of this writer; the ummah would be in much better shape. This in turn would translate into a better state for mankind as a whole. How so you may ask? I am more than willing to discus that with anyone at anytime.
2004-09-13

NASIRDEEN BIN YAKUB FROM NIGERIA said:
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2004-09-09

SHAFEEQAH I. ABDULLAH FROM UNITED STATES said:
Beautiful article! Alhamdulillah!
2004-09-09

ADAM IBRAHIM MUHAMMAD FROM NIGERIA said:
I agree compeletely with the article. We must learn to be muslims first before any other thing. Don't consider yourself Ahlul-Sunnah, Sufi, Shi'a, follower of Imam malik, follower of Shafi'i, etc, but consider yourself always a muslim. I think if we do this, just like the Sahabas did, we will find that there will be no need for even disagreeing not to talk of using abusive languages with each other. And in this way we build a strong Ummah that is united towards a common goal, the goal of total submission to the will of Allah.

Allahu A'lam
2004-09-09

MUMUNI ZAKARIA FROM GHANA said:
Salamu-alaikum
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2004-09-08

HASEENA FROM U.S.A. said:
As salaam alaikum,
I really enjoyed this article because i think people, including myself, forget that being a good Muslim is also to be tolerant of other people's opinions. However, i felt a bit dissatisfied with the solution of the details given in this piece. I understand the problem we have but what is a more elaborate "game plan" we can attain to better ourselves next time we are in this inevitable situation.

JezakunAllah khairon for your time and energy.
2004-09-08

NADXILE FROM USA said:
Salamu alaikum. I would like to say that I agree completely with this article. Alhumdullilah, Sa'adullah Khan has a way of breaking down concepts into pieces that all can understand. May Allah bless him.
2004-09-07

SNM FROM ST. LOUIS, MO USA said:
This is beautifully written and a great example of why it is important to respect the global community of Islam. We should be an example of how people from all over the world with different cultural and social experiences can embrace one another under the umbrella of Islam. I pray to Allah that this article helps us to truly realize our duty in that regard.
2004-09-07

TOUHID I KHAN FROM BANGLADESH said:
Agreeing, Disagreeing, Being moderate these all are very much situational. It is allways wise to be in middle. Who knows, what if you yourself is in a mistake..
2004-09-07

MRS. HAJARA YUSUF FROM THE NETHERLANDS said:
This is a beautiful piece of writing. may the Almighty Allah be with him and grant him more wisdom to write and educate people more on Islam. Thank you.
2004-09-06

MUHAMMAD ALI FROM USA said:
I think the writer has done a good job of analyzing a serious problem effecting most Muslims. The lack of tolerance for differing opinions has reduced constructive communication to a minimum. Muslims also suffer from the notion that a few amongst them are knowledgable, and have a right to dictate to others, while many others believe that they need to have blind faith in these self-declared "knowledgable" individuals. These attitudes consequently results in Muslims not being able to critically analyze the situations they find themselves in, and hence do not seem to come out of the predicament we presently find ourselves in. I believe this predicament is mostly due to our ignorance and lack of respect for differing opinions.
2004-09-06

ARIFA FROM AUSTRALIA said:
Salaam,
Mashallah i completely agree with what the brother has written. The thing i've noticed though is that even "progressive" Muslims who think of themselves as "open-minded" etc tend to do exactly what this brother has talked about, and what they themselves are against: i.e. they also seem to think that their opinion is somewhat infallible because (perhaps) they are intellectually advanced or the like.
-Ma Salaama
Arifa
2004-09-06

PHILLIP RAMSEY FROM USA said:
Wonderful!!
Allah made a world full of Goodness.
2004-09-06

ASMA AHMAD FROM PAKISTAN said:
though i agree that one should not argue in the pursuit of proving himself right but i do think that there are certain aspects where after formulating your opinion through search one should stick to it, i might be wrong but this is my conclusion so far
2004-09-06