Need guidance on Islamic marriage laws

I'm a Hindu lady married to a Hindu Man as per Hindu Law. I a not happy with my current marriage. I have met a Muslim Man recently and we have both fallen deeply in love with each other. He's already married to a Muslim lady and has three children. But he's ready to marry me under Islamic law which permits him more than one wife. I too am ready to convert to Islam. However I do not want to go through the tedious route of divorce with first husband. It will take months may be years. I understand Hindu Marriage is not legal under Islamic Law. Is it possible to convert to Islam and marry my lover without divorcing my Hindu Husband? Please guide me as I do not want to lose this man!!

Divorce is necessary for second marriage. 

Dear Manisha,

Thank you for posting here.
I hope you will come back to read this response.

You said in your post that a Hindu marriage is not legal in muslim law. I do not understand what you exactly mean by it.
Islam does not recognize interfaith marriages, however we do recognize, honor and respect marriages between people of other faiths, by this I mean your marriage to your husband is a 'real marraige' recognized by muslims.

Although muslim men are allowed to take upto 4 wives, and in India they are allowed to observe Muslim personal law in cases of marriage, divorce, inheritance etc, Islam does not give permission to a muslim man to break a home for his personal desires.
In fact it is sinful to come between a man and his wife (here, you and your husband).

One is not a good muslim unless his neighbor is safe thru his hands and tongue - the meaning is that a good muslim is not supposed to slander a reputation, squander someone's wealth, or malign someone's honor. You being somebody's wedded wife is his honor - and a muslim giving you a marriage proposal is not being a good muslim.

Know that muslims are not supposed to propose a single woman who is considering another man's proposal at that time - leave alone proposing someone's lawful wife!

I know so far I have not answered your real question. But I wanted you to know that, a man for whom you want to break your home is not keeping the covanant of God, how can you trust him to remain faithful to you.

As for your question, in order to marry a muslim man, one has to be single, or divorced for more than 3 months and 10 days, and is a muslim or at least an adhearant of any monotheistic religion.

Please feel free to ask any other question in this regard.



Edited by Nausheen - 08 February 2015 at 12:52am