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   Asalamualukum, 

I have been married for 5 years and have an 8 month old child. I was born and raised in America and my husband is Pakistani. We are fine with eachother but the thing is my in laws. Ever since we came to America he has been sending whatever money he makes to Pakistan. 

His older brother is in jail and his other brother is not working for various reasons. Both brothers have families of their own. I understand him sending money to his parents and brothers but the issue is that here he tells me to not buy this or not buy that.

 It's not that I am spending his money uselessly but if o want to buy a toy or even a phone for myself its always an arguement. Am I wrong to be frustrated since his brother is in jail? It's not even about the money or lack of. It's just that I constantly feel that his family comes before me. 

I probably sound like an annoying unappreciative wife right?I'm

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sgulab Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 26 February 2016 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote sgulab Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Need another opinion Posted: 26 February 2016 at 8:36am
	Asalamualukum, I have been married for 5 years and have an 8 month old child. I was born and raised in America and my husband is Pakistani. We are fine with eachother but the thing is my in laws. Ever since we came to America he has been sending whatever money he makes to Pakistan. His older brother is in jail and his other brother is not working for various reasons. Both brothers have families of their own. I understand him sending money to his parents and brothers but the issue is that here he tells me to not buy this or not buy that. It's not that I am spending his money uselessly but if o want to buy a toy or even a phone for myself its always an arguement. Am I wrong to be frustrated since his brother is in jail? It's not even about the money or lack of. It's just that I constantly feel that his family comes before me. I probably sound like an annoying unappreciative wife right?I'm

AhmadJoyia Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 20 March 2005 Status: Offline Points: 1647	Post Options Post Reply Quote AhmadJoyia Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 04 March 2016 at 1:21pm
	No, my sis you are no different than my wife. I can only hope that you two would understand that life is much beyond these little tit bit issues of my family vs his/her family, kind of stuff. But we are all humans, I must not forget this, as well. Best regards.