Scared to tell my mom that I want to marry

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   Assalamu aleikum dear sisters,

I�m new to this forum but I have an important issue that I�m carrying since 2 months now.

I�m 21, a student in my 5th semester and inshallah finish my studies in 2 years.

In October 2016 I met a really nice muslim guy through my sister�s friend ( he is his brother ). We got along really well, spent together with some other friends of my sister a good time. 

Back than I hadn�t any thoughts about getting married to him. He was just a good friend. 

Because in December 2016 he flew to his family to Pakistan ( we both are living in Germany, but originate from there ) where he actually should get engaged we didn�t chat a lot.

He stayed for about 6 weeks but wasn�t engaged when he came back.

So in April I went to visit my sister and him ( my sister lives about 6h away due to her studies and he also lives there ) and things got a little too far between us ( we didn�t do zinah� ). 

I really pray and seek for forgiveness from Allah� We know, it�s wrong having any physical contact before marriage...

But we are sure that we want to get married. 

I�ve told my sisters but they don�t support me. They say I�m still too young for getting married� He is 30 has both feet on the ground�.my sisters think he is pressuring me into marriage because he was thinking about the topic the last few months but that�s not the case. They don�t know what happened between us�.

Besides that we don�t wanna do any more haram things I really love him.

But I�m scared to tell my parents� I don�t know what to do I just really wanna marry him� I can imagine my parents would saythat I should first finish my studies before thinking about getting married. But we can�t wait that long ( It would still take about 2 years ). 

But from the religious side I need to do it. It�s my obligation that I have to tell my parents�.But I don�t know how�.When is the right moment ? Will there be a good moment for telling them..?

He already told his parents about me and now it should have been my turn.

Dear sisters for me I�m in a really complicated situation� Can you please give me some advices how to open up to my parents ? How should I approach it ? 

Please, help me...

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Merw96 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 09 June 2017 Location: Germany Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote Merw96 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Scared to tell my mom that I want to marry Posted: 09 June 2017 at 6:42am
	Assalamu aleikum dear sisters, I�m new to this forum but I have an important issue that I�m carrying since 2 months now. I�m 21, a student in my 5th semester and inshallah finish my studies in 2 years. In October 2016 I met a really nice muslim guy through my sister�s friend ( he is his brother ). We got along really well, spent together with some other friends of my sister a good time. Back than I hadn�t any thoughts about getting married to him. He was just a good friend. Because in December 2016 he flew to his family to Pakistan ( we both are living in Germany, but originate from there ) where he actually should get engaged we didn�t chat a lot. He stayed for about 6 weeks but wasn�t engaged when he came back. So in April I went to visit my sister and him ( my sister lives about 6h away due to her studies and he also lives there ) and things got a little too far between us ( we didn�t do zinah� ). I really pray and seek for forgiveness from Allah� We know, it�s wrong having any physical contact before marriage... But we are sure that we want to get married. I�ve told my sisters but they don�t support me. They say I�m still too young for getting married� He is 30 has both feet on the ground�.my sisters think he is pressuring me into marriage because he was thinking about the topic the last few months but that�s not the case. They don�t know what happened between us�. Besides that we don�t wanna do any more haram things I really love him. But I�m scared to tell my parents� I don�t know what to do I just really wanna marry him� I can imagine my parents would saythat I should first finish my studies before thinking about getting married. But we can�t wait that long ( It would still take about 2 years ). But from the religious side I need to do it. It�s my obligation that I have to tell my parents�.But I don�t know how�.When is the right moment ? Will there be a good moment for telling them..? He already told his parents about me and now it should have been my turn. Dear sisters for me I�m in a really complicated situation� Can you please give me some advices how to open up to my parents ? How should I approach it ? Please, help me...

Sarahhh Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 20 October 2017 Status: Offline Points: 5	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sarahhh Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 October 2017 at 10:55am
	Hi! I think you already know the answer :) I'm a Christian and don't know much about Islam (trying to learn that's why I joined this forum) ;anyway, no matter how detail I give the crux of the matter would still be:mister up courage and just tell your mom. If he likes you back he will wait. I know a few similar cases and they did what I told you!

Aziza25 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 04 February 2018 Status: Offline Points: 16	Post Options Post Reply Quote Aziza25 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 06 February 2018 at 8:17am
	What about his parents contacting directly yours?