arranged marriage

 

Thanks for reading my post.

 

While it would be nice and ideal if muslim marriages were filled with sweet love and romance from the start, and that both partners had a full choice in the decision of marriage of course that's not always the case. As a  converted muslimah living on the west, I'm not quite sure  how common arranged marriages are in the east, or what can be done to bring ease to the one's that are about to be in such a marriage.

 

Arranged marriage takes place mainly because it's for what's best, so that this worldly life can be of a better benefit for the the man, the woman, and the family they may make.

 

But what about matters of the heart...

 

If a woman participate in one, how can see fully come to terms that the man may not love her in a romantic sense?

 

Romance is a nature feeling...while a man can have another wife if the first wife agree to it, that allows the man to even entertain the thought of another woman. But as a woman, I would imagine its wrong to even think of another man...daydreaming of a marriage filled with romance.

 

When a muslim marriage take place, are we suppose to have in our hearts that it's forever?

 

Are there any hadiths or supporting ayats that discuss marriages such as these.

 

Even hadiths and stories that gives a woman strength to deal with difficult marriages.

 

Even a historical view point would help me come to term to things....

Was marriages in the begining of time RARE to  be done for romantic reasons? What was the ultimate goal for marrages, when Islam and other monothesit  religions were in there developing stages?

 

 

Do any woman have any personal stories they like to share?