should men ask their wives to marry a second woman

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   This is perhaps the only intelligent comment in this thread: CONSULT A SCHOLAR! 

Also, correct me if I'm reading too much into the Quran here. But is it possible to "deal justly" with a wife while in effect lying to her? Yes, yes. Your "culture" may permit and even encourage such things, gentlemen. I am asking, does your conscience? More importantly, does Allah? Islam---as a set of historically developed expedients for putting Quran and sunnah into practice--- is the way to Allah; it is scarcely Allah Himself.

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masnavi Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 24 August 2011 Status: Offline Points: 9	Post Options Post Reply Quote masnavi Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: should men ask their wives to marry a second woman Posted: 16 February 2012 at 4:09am
	This is perhaps the only intelligent comment in this thread: CONSULT A SCHOLAR! Also, correct me if I'm reading too much into the Quran here. But is it possible to "deal justly" with a wife while in effect lying to her? Yes, yes. Your "culture" may permit and even encourage such things, gentlemen. I am asking, does your conscience? More importantly, does Allah? Islam---as a set of historically developed expedients for putting Quran and sunnah into practice--- is the way to Allah; it is scarcely Allah Himself.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 October 2011 at 6:59am
	What is the question?

free4uboo Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 10 October 2011 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote free4uboo Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 10 October 2011 at 2:19pm
	asa..i agree that a husband should tell his first wife if he is interested in a second wife, sometimes the purpose is not just to have a second wife ,it may be because illness may have came over the first wife the she may not be able to give her husband due rights. i want to know if the husband finds it difficult to marry another because so much time with frist wife has already been established and its hard on him to get another wife just because the first can not preform her wife duty in the bed...What should the husband do he has righ ts ? any aswers .....

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 April 2011 at 6:01pm
	"According to Islam , husband should tell his wife that he wants to marry another wife ..." Moly, what textual evidence are you able to site for this assertion?

Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 April 2011 at 4:12pm
	Uh John, It sounds good in teory, but I am on a board with women in polygyny and they would not agree... its very complicated.. one way is not good for all ..:)
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

haniyyya Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 06 April 2011 Location: South Africa Status: Offline Points: 9	Post Options Post Reply Quote haniyyya Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 April 2011 at 2:52am
	aslm... yes they can have a second a third and a fourth no problem life is so exciting for muslim men and we women can only have one even if he is not what we wanted we have to be patient and sacrifice so we suffer in this life but in the hearafter we will enjoy inshlh and the men enjoy here with four women and in the hearafter they will enjoy with 99 women thats just the way it is....

Moly Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 06 April 2011 Location: Egypt Status: Offline Points: 9	Post Options Post Reply Quote Moly Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 April 2011 at 5:47am
	Al Salam Alikum According to Islam , husband should tell his wife that he wants to marry another wife , so if she agrees to he can marry another wife , otherwise if he insist she can ask for devorce. This is dependant on her consent and her tolerant for such situation Salam

John S Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 16 February 2011 Status: Offline Points: 8	Post Options Post Reply Quote John S Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 04 March 2011 at 6:13pm
	It is my position that the man should introduce the prospective second wife to the first wife, and if they get along and she gives him her approval then all is well. If he marries a second wife and the first is totally against it and/or can't stand the second wife (or vice versa), disruption in the household is assured and should be avoided. If the man disregards his first wife's negative opinion and marries again anyway and the house and family life is severely disrupted, isn't he committing a sin by placing his desire for the second wife between him and his first wife? I have absolutely no personal experience with multiple marriages, but I have seen the results of "open marriages" of friends and from what I have observed every one of them ended in disaster in one way or another.