Am I the wrong one?

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   As Salamu Alaikum

You have good advices from the responses above. 

Why don't you attend any program even before your mother tells you ! That may help to gain confidence of your mother that you don't need push-ups anymore. Whenever you are free try to spent time with Masjid and activities. Discuss them with your mother. She would then inshaAllah nomore persuade you or feel upset, if at all b.cos of other important works you skip meetings.

Regarding the Ideal you mentioned in your post, yes that's a very good characteristic of  a muslim. I would say it's weak faith if at all you feel you shud n't be like that. By the way kindly note our level of faith is never stagnant. It fluctuates. So need not worry. Make duas. Remember everyday all of us are to srtive to become a better and more better muslim.

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seekshidayath Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Islam Joined: 26 March 2006 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 3357	Post Options Post Reply Quote seekshidayath Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Am I the wrong one? Posted: 12 July 2010 at 8:06pm
	As Salamu Alaikum You have good advices from the responses above. Why don't you attend any program even before your mother tells you ! That may help to gain confidence of your mother that you don't need push-ups anymore. Whenever you are free try to spent time with Masjid and activities. Discuss them with your mother. She would then inshaAllah nomore persuade you or feel upset, if at all b.cos of other important works you skip meetings. Regarding the Ideal you mentioned in your post, yes that's a very good characteristic of a muslim. I would say it's weak faith if at all you feel you shud n't be like that. By the way kindly note our level of faith is never stagnant. It fluctuates. So need not worry. Make duas. Remember everyday all of us are to srtive to become a better and more better muslim.
	Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: �All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."

honeto Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Islam Joined: 20 March 2008 Location: Texas Status: Offline Points: 2487	Post Options Post Reply Quote honeto Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 June 2010 at 8:15pm
	Salam, it is not very uncommon though, parents want to see their children better than themselves, in education, job, life and of course as in this case also for the hereafter. It is also true that sometimes parents may not know how to help kids become better than themselves. I see may be the method is the issue. It is also important to remember as Muslims, that our parents are to be respected and followed, because they want best for us. The only time you may disobey is if they try to take you away from worship of God. I guess, I will say try to be understanding and use creativity and kind ways to let her know your other important assignments (at school etc) in a way that she can feel assure and trusting of you. Also do a lot of dua and ask Allah's help. And remember, fulfilling all obligations that we are given by Allah is not extremism as mentioned by (I Love Jesus guy). Hasan
	The friends of God will certainly have nothing to fear, nor will they be grieved. Al Quran 10:62

Megatron Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 26 December 2001 Status: Offline Points: 279	Post Options Post Reply Quote Megatron Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 June 2010 at 1:57pm
	No offense, but your mom is crazy. I'm just kidding. One thing I get annoyed about certain Muslims is they think Islam is all about going to Masjid, attending talks, wearing leather socks etc. Going to work, studying hard making yourself a smart, strong, successful person is also apart of Islam. It betters yourself and those around you. We need smart successful people in our fold so I say you're in the right. Keep in mind though that your Mother loves you more than any other human being will ever, ever, ever. She's only doing this because she wants the best for you. Would it kill you to eat with her on the floor once in a while?

I♥Jesus Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 04 December 2009 Status: Offline Points: 100	Post Options Post Reply Quote I♥Jesus Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 June 2010 at 7:19am
	Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "Religion is very easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in that way. So you should not be extremists, but try to be near to perfection and receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded; and gain strength by worshiping in the mornings, the nights." (Sahih Muslim Vol 1, Book 2, Number 38), (See Fath-ul-Bari, Page 102, Vol 1).
	If Allah had so willed, He would have made you a single people, but (His plan is) to test you in what He hath given you: so strive as in a race in all virtues. 5:48

Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 June 2010 at 3:10am
	Asalaam Alaikum, It is a struggle to please our parents and yet find our own way in this world. I don't have any simple, quick fixes. But no, I am sure most of us do not consider you to be a "bad" Muslim. We should live our lives in moderation. And we all have different roles in life. There are the scholars, the auto mechanics, the taxi drivers, the teachers, the doctors. And living your life as the Prophet (SAWS) is very much an internal thing. There were workers in that society. There were soldiers, there were teachers, there were healers. Parents get this way at times in regards to their children. Sometimes they want "better" for them and forget that this is relative. She is very blessed to have a strong deen and a so who does pray and does take his religion seriously. Is there someone whom she respects who could talk with her? My duas for you brother. Hayfa
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

lost Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 19 September 2006 Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote lost Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 June 2010 at 2:29pm
	The last few years, my mother has gotten extremely religious. That's great for her, but not for me. I pray, going to masjid whenever I can, I fast, I donate, I try to read the holy quran whenever I can. I follow the five pillars as best as I can, but she forces the first pillar, Shahadah, on me rather harsh. If I'm not living my life in the life of the Prophet, I am not a good muslim. Lately she's been getting upset over the fact if I don't want to go to a religious program. This happened last Friday when I didn't want to go to a religious program because I had to study. She got mad. Lately her view is if your not a full fledged Muslim (going to these programs, spending time in masjid over the weekend, and etc.) your not really a muslim. She won't even eat dinner with me and my dad because she wants to sit on the floor and eat like how the Prophet did. I feel like I have to go to these programs just so I wont have to deal with her getting upset. We have a family friend who I think would be her perfect idle soon. He grows a beard, he goes to different masjid's every month to spread the word of Islam, he has his wife completely covered up, and has her stay in another room when we would go to his house. I don't see myself as that type of person. Maybe one day I might be able to live like that, but these days don't seem like that. Am I a bad Muslim? Or is there a way I can have my mom back off without upsetting her?