marriage problem

 

Don't be wrong, yes marriage is very important part in Islam, it says "half of the religion". We need to try as much as possible to make it work.  And yes divorce is a "halal thing" but hated by Allah. However avoiding abuse and protecting live from danger  are much-much more important than marriage. Allah much-much more hate "abuse" compare to divorce.

 

Sometime we make mistake in prioritize things. So, again, in this case avoiding abuse and protecting live from danger  are have much higher priority and protecting your marriage.

 

Firstly brother may Allah S.W.T make it all easy for you...

 

What I think is, it is very important to respect our parents and look after them and not hurt them, and obey what they say as long as its in the path of islamic guidence that Allah S.W.T has told as to follow. In my opinion if you are chosing to marry a good muslim women who will support you to become a better muslim, and she herself is follwing the giudence of islam of how to be a good muslim women then there's no reason for objection from you're parents, and if they do then you can try to convince them as we all no it is very important to have our parents blessings upon us, and if that doesnt work then you should marry her, because you're parents dont have a good enough reason to not accept her. Hope this helps inshallah make dua to Allah S.W.T to guide you and help you make the right decision. Below I have pasted something which i came across when i done research on this topic hope this helps:

 

"The eminent Muslim scholar, Dr. `Abdel-Fattah Idrees, Professor of Comparative Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., adds:

�Taking the permission of one's parents to marry a particular woman is not obligatory in Islam if the man is sane and has reached puberty. So if a man is sane and of age, and wishes to marry a woman whom he sees to be good and righteous, then he has the right to marry her even though his parents disagree with the marriage. But he must respect his parents and clarify his point of view regarding this marriage. This is done to prevent severing family ties.�

I will contact a sheikh and request him to come with me home and try and help me. I dont understand why people would make such straightforward thing difficult. It is beyond me.