Wearing hijab for 1 month |
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Lalli36
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Posted: 31 August 2011 at 1:26pm |
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Hello all,
I am still participating in this experiment as haven't gone a full 30 days yet. I have decided to continue to track my progress on my website which is lexistlaurent .com Please feel free to visit and comment. I've posted some pics there as well *cringe* but take it easy on me as I really am trying hard to wrap the headscarf as best I can, although it's occasionally unsuccessful. I have relied heavily on youtube. Lalli |
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aminanima
Starter Female Joined: 13 July 2011 Status: Offline Points: 6 |
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Lalli, I dont understand why it would be a problem that you put photos up where you show your experience with the hijab.
I really want to contact you and that's because I got member here, but im not allowed to PM you, dont know why maybe im too new? I'm interested in your story and experience with the hijab and I would like to, with your permission of course, to make it in my language so that others also can read it.
email me: [email protected]
Thank you and may Allah guide you on the right path, amin!
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Lalli36
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Hello!
First of all, I am sorry for going so long without an update and I apologize for the length! I do have a question to ask at the end so if you dont have enough time to read all of this, scroll down for the question. I have now completed 2 weeks in each country. Unfortunately I was not able to stay in Venezuela more than 2 weeks because of the political issues in my other country but I had some very interesting experiences while there!
I have found that in Venezuela, no one seemed to think anything of me wearing hijab and I was treated exactly like everyone else with perhaps even more respect. For the years I lived in Venezuela I was always the topic of controversy because I dress modestly anyway. I was always made fun of, etc. as many women there tend to be "over exposed." Interesting to note that I was treated better with what many of them might consider "extreme" modesty.
In the USA, I have encountered more reactions by far. I live in an arts district where the people are supposedly open minded. Almost all know me. When I went to the store near my house I felt like I was being interrogated by people who, while I wouldn't consider them friends, know me. "Why are you doing this?" "What's the point?" "Aren't you embarrassed?" and of course the most common question "Did you convert?" I suppose it was a bit of a shock for them.
Aside from that, I've had some not-too-pleasant things shouted at me, bad looks and the like. I was surprised by my own reaction to those. I expected some negative reactions, but I took them so completely personally that at times I wanted to cry. Perhaps I'm weak, who know. I know many people are exposed to these things every day.
What also surprised me was how I felt wearing hijab. It felt absolutely wonderful! Some of the reasons are rather vain like not having to obsess in the mirror for hours trying to get my hair to cooperate. But for me, the best thing about it was that I didn't feel exposed. I truly, 100% felt free. Free from having to feel embarrassed by what a man might be thinking when I walked by. Free from catcalls, and most importantly, free from wondering always if I was being "tolerated" in a conversation or at work simply for my looks or proportionate to the amount of skin I was showing which, let's face it, is the case for many women unfortunately in this day and age. I felt that I was taken more seriously when I spoke.
It's been an emotional roller coaster and there are many more things I would like to share with you all. I do have a blog and I will be posting the full story there. I will post a link when the time comes.
Ok... so here is my question. My school wants pictures of me during this process which I have taken for posterity for myself. Is it appropriate for me to post these pictures on my blog when I am finished? I wouldn't want to do anything disrespectful at the last minute but I've found mixed opinions on this. I know many Muslim women who post pictures on facebook accounts, etc. But I also know some who have said that they don't consider it appropriate.
As always, I look forward to hearing from you all!
Thanks again! Your words mean a lot to me!
Lalli
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allah guide me
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may allah guide you to the straight way Lalli
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Matt Browne
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Please share your experience with us after your experiment. I'd be very interested in that. Thanks.
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A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad
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Ghazzali
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Aassalamualaikum.carry on sister. May Allah guide you to the truth.
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The world is a dangerous place to live in, not because of the bad people, but because of the good people who does not do anything about it.
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Chrysalis
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I think you should avoid Bars, Clubs and Pubs.. but if its a normal resturaunt that just serves alcohol that should be fine. [We Muslims are supposed to avoid restaurants that serve alcohol & pork. So we don't go to Bars, Pubs, Clubs.] However it should be okay to go to normal everyday restaurants even if they serve alcohol [as long as u don't drink in public]. Also as Muslims we keep a polite distance from members of the opposite gender... if they are unrelated to us.
Thats really interesting! Are you going to be keeping a blog or something? Maybe it would be a good idea to record your experiences on the blog and we could read..
That sounds about right! :). Btw you could also try you-tubing Hijab styles etc and you will find tutorials there and lots of ideas. As long as whatever your wearing hides your curves and covers your skin - it should be okay. (as a general rule). |
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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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pure_columbian
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Hi Lalli
I think its wonderful you are trying out this experiment.
I would be really interested to find out how you were treated and how your felt wearing the hijab once the experiment has finished. Hope you'll write a piece once its finished.
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