Am i muslim?

Many thanks for all of your replies. They have all been of great help and I now feel I am on my journey. I have been fasting for Ramadan and have almost finished reading the Quran. I have a stronger beleif now and hope that i can strengthen my faith further.

May peace be on the guided ones. First of all, to answer your question 'am I muslim?', no, you are not yet. In order to be a muslim, you need to declare that There is no God but Allah and Muhammad pbuh is the slave and messenger of Allah.
Now coming to your viewpoints about life, brother, how do you define what is right and wrong? You believe some things are right and some are wrong. Before that, you need to define right or wrong. Philosophers have differed on the definition of right and wrong. Some have even said there is no ultimate right or wrong. Everything happening is just an event taking place at a time. Right and wrong are relative to each other. Your views about rightness of something will probably change as you gain more knowledge and experience. When i first started to keep beard, i could not find much logic behind it, but i still kept it since prophet told us to do so. It was after a few years that i found the benefits. First of all, people expected high standards from me. People expected me to be ethical, not to use foul language, not to flirt with women, not to smoke, not to drink, etc. So, effectively, i was being forced by people around me to lead an ethical life. They would smoke themselves, but they would never offer me to smoke, they would watch pornography, but they would not invite me to join them. And all this just for keeping a beard. There are many other advantages. So you see, somethings might seem meaningless at one point of time, but may seem meaningful at some other point. Right and wrong would always be debatable. So our belief should be based on truth. We should believe whatever is the truth. It does not matter whether laws of Islam seems right or wrong to an individual, what matters is whether islam is the truth, whether prophet muhammad pbuh is a messenger, whether Quran is the word of God? This is what you should be bothered about. If it is true, accept it without hesitation. If it is false, search for the truth until you find it. You cannot escape truth. It's all around you. Your very existence is true.
Is death right or wrong? Should our loved ones ever die? It does not matter. It does not matter whether death is right or wrong. Death is the reality. Man will die. It's the truth. We just have to accept it and move on. Similarly, it does not matter whether alcohol is harmful or beneficial. Allah forbade us, so we will not drink. Because if we disobey Allah, we will go to hell. This is the truth. The sun rises in the east, 1+1=2, there is nothing good or bad about these. These are just the truth.
For the proof that Islam is the truth, you can search 'Is the quran God's word' by Dr.Zakir Naik, on the internet. You will find both video and written lecture insha'allah. Also, you may search 'The proof that islam is the truth' by Abdur Rahim Green on youtube.
May Allah show you the true path.
P.S. Another point of view is that, Allah decides what is right or wrong, not you and me. When Allah says something is right, it really is right. We just need to verify whether the information is from Him or not.

Have you discussed these concerns with her father?  I am sure he would like to hear them and can advise you appropriately.  You become a Muslim when you testify with belief that there is only one god - Allah; worthy of our worship, and Muhammad is His final Prohet and Messenger.

Assalamu Alaikum,

"And I recognize my own limitations that I am not so smart that I can possible understand all the levels to Islam."

Sister, that is very good observation. We may and should try our best, but we may never reach the point of perfection. Therefore, we may strive to remain very close to it or closest to it. There are many things that would always remain beyond human comprehension. That means the challenge to keep trying our best would also be present permanently.

May Allah guide us all.

Peace