Obligations to an Uninvolved Parent?

thank you lady and abuayisha so much for your kind words and advice. it is definitely felt and much appreciated you are really helpful in making me see that the real focus is not my father at all but trying inshaAllah to receive the favor of Allah. How my father is or how he responds is truly not the issue and you've helped to point this out to me. I wasn't looking at it this way. Thank you both for shining your light and knowledge my way. Yes, inshaAllah that would be wonderful if my father one day became Muslim inshaAllah.

xoxo,

musulmana

p.s. I'm happy you both like my avatar too!

Assalaamaoalaikum wrwb sister. I really love your id picture of the heart. how nice. Anyway I am sorry for your hurt. I definetely would advise you to be careful about allowing your mind to linger about how life for you would be if your father was not physically here.  I know you love him much and that you want a better relationship with him.  My husband reminds me sometimes that ,when you do something for people or anything then  try not to expect anything from them in return.  And that what you do in this life is for blessings.  There are many reasons for this but one one is so that your heart and feelings will be protected against any assumptions you have of other people.  Yes we do want to feel appreciated and loved from our family but if that person or anyone is not showing you love back and kindness then you can not force this to happen.  I will encourage you to make dua for your father's happiness.  Ask Allah for his forgiveness in your father's sins and your sins.  Continue to ask Allah to make your relationship close with your father.  Ask yourself were you also gentle with him when you talked to him last?  Advoid questions like, "why dont you call me?"  Maybe you can ask those type of queestions later when your relationship is better.   Tell him that you miss him alot and that you are coming to see him or that you want to pay for him to come to see you.  Look sister sometimes you have to be the one to intiate ways to make your relationship with him better even though you are the daughter.  And I am sure that you want that reciprocated as well.   You will get more blessings this way then to stay away from him.  there are so many goals we should have for ourselves as muslims.   One of those goals is to try to make peace with people especially our parents.  Also to gather as many blessings we can get on this earth.  Try to be the best muslim you can be regardless of what the other person is doing to you.  I hope that you feel better.  Also too everyone has some form of this relationship with someone in their family but there are alot of people who try to make the best out of that relationship even if it is not the relationship of their dreams.