second marriage

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   Assalamualaikum,

May Allah help you in these troubled times.

First of all, as stated earlier by two people, your nikah is valid.

Second, what do you want to do? Search yourself and ask this question. 

you said "My husband, however is saying that he would not leave me and take care of both wives. "

If so, is this situation too bad for you? ie you cannot accept being a second wife? 

Its hard to give you any advise based on your story, because as you have said there has been mis-communication and change of words on the side of your husband's family. However, if your husband is a good muslim and wants to give you and his first wife the rights due according to sharia then I think on your family's part its but an ego hassle. 

Islam allows multiple marriages. Your inlaws are your aunt and cousins, If you go back to your husband's home and accept your situation and status things can settle down in due course of time, Allah willing. 

Talk to your husband and decide the matter without forcing him to divorce his first wife. He does not have to if he does not want to and no one has the right to ask him to do that. 

And Allah know best.

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Nausheen Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 10 January 2001 Status: Offline Points: 4251	Post Options Post Reply Quote Nausheen Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: second marriage Posted: 02 June 2014 at 1:15am
	Assalamualaikum, May Allah help you in these troubled times. First of all, as stated earlier by two people, your nikah is valid. Second, what do you want to do? Search yourself and ask this question. you said "My husband, however is saying that he would not leave me and take care of both wives. " If so, is this situation too bad for you? ie you cannot accept being a second wife? Its hard to give you any advise based on your story, because as you have said there has been mis-communication and change of words on the side of your husband's family. However, if your husband is a good muslim and wants to give you and his first wife the rights due according to sharia then I think on your family's part its but an ego hassle. Islam allows multiple marriages. Your inlaws are your aunt and cousins, If you go back to your husband's home and accept your situation and status things can settle down in due course of time, Allah willing. Talk to your husband and decide the matter without forcing him to divorce his first wife. He does not have to if he does not want to and no one has the right to ask him to do that. And Allah know best.
	<font color=purple>Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR]

abuali Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 05 May 2014 Status: Offline Points: 12	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuali Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 May 2014 at 1:49am
	Your Nikah is valid because you both did it in the right way but the problems you are facing are because of mis commitment and weakness of your husband and your husband family, May Allah guide them because they didn't think about this all before marry you which is direclty impacting you now. You are legally his wife now so i pray that all problem will be solved and your husband handle this all issues.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 1:44pm
	"..which was the promise made by his people during their proposal to me." People can say, and claim what they like. This has no bearing upon her husband divorcing his first wife, or the validity of his second marriage. And Allah Knows Best.

ambar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 22 January 2014 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote ambar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 9:48am
	And now i do not have any identity. My parents are not very well-off. I had a job in a reputed company which i was asked.to.leave by my in laws. Iam financially suffering now andmy husband has till.date never given me.a penny for myself.

ambar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 22 January 2014 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote ambar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 9:45am
	I or my parents are not demanding him to divorce his first wife. It was they who cried with us about his first wife's unacceptable behaviour. She was always into fashion and nevr took interest in handling the family. There was not even a lil piety in her as per them. And hence they wanted to get rid of her and bring home someone pious and smeone who could take up the respnsibilties of their home . They asked us infact literally fell on our feet for the acceptance of this proposal. But now they deny each and everything.

Abu Loren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 29 June 2012 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 1646	Post Options Post Reply Quote Abu Loren Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 9:29am
	How can the marriage be valid when they've lied to her and deceived her to marry her cousin?

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 9:15am
	The marriage is valid, and it is not allowed to request that one divorces his wife to accept a proposal from another wife. It is now for you to decide if you want to remain married to your husband or seek a khula.

ambar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 22 January 2014 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote ambar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 January 2014 at 6:06am
	But the nikah took place in the presence of my maternal uncle (mother's brother) one of my cousin brother my father my mother my husband's mother and his two sisters. And we do have the nikah naama as the proof. Is the marriage still invalid?