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Assalamalecum brother,look brother I myself at present is 24 years of age but what U did was wrong frankly because U said U had not talked to ur mother for 3 months and ur father bad mouthed U bcoz of a girl U disrespect ur parents,Allah says in Qur'an in ch 17 v 23-24-that worship Allah,there is nothing like him and when ur parents reach senescence b good to them never backfire them U shud not utter even offf and pray to lord to shower mercy on them.ur parents were 100% right that ur age was not good for marriage if U have stayed a little bit more longer not only U cud plz ur parents and Allah but also Allah cud have gifted U a more beautiful and pious wife,I also say what ur father did was definitely wrong bcoz Allah says in Qur'an in ch 2 v 195 that never let ur own hands to b the cause of ur own destruction.explain to ur wife that its ur duty to look after ur mother,because Prophet Muhammad S.A.W(pbuh) said the person U shud loved the most is ur mother.So try to shave off the distance between ur mother n ur wife and pray to Allah to solve ur problem.i will pray for U to Allah to solve ur problem.in Sha Allah everything will b fine.

Greetings ufarooq,

I feel so, so sorry for your situation and don't know what to say about a solution.  It may be helpful to others though, that you shared.  My advice, had things not already taken the turns which they have, would have been to exercise patience.  God often wants us to be patient, to learn patience, trusting in Him, and He rewards patience.  Perhaps you will help someone else reading to consider to be patient and not rush to nikka, instead taking the route of patience... taking the time to prove love and honor, giving parents time to see and accept their choice as the right and acceptable one before going forward.  My daughter once entered a dating relationship I did not approve but when the young man backed off, showing his respect for her and her relationship with me, he earned my respect.  They continued their friendship but with caution and without shutting me out, and with keeping boundaries in place between them.  My daughter and I maintained our good relationship due to her respectfulness of me and my input into the situation without having to compromise in her making her own choice.  She proceeded but with guidance.  This grew my respect for her and my belief in her sensibilities, and strengthened our bond with one another.

Unfortunately you, now, with the situation that has been created, are caught in the middle of two women who love you, and who I presume you also love.  This is the very worst place to be.  These women if they are to love you freely, would be better able to do so, if they cared for one another also.  Your fathers actions, while you can not accept responsibility for them... he must have had problems of his own to do such a thing... it is too bad he did not seek help...
but your fathers actions have only made things that much more difficult for you and your mother now.
I will pray that God will bring a solution... that perhaps your mother will come to value the love she can still have from you through acceptance of the choice you have made in your wife.  If your mother can come to accept your wife then prayerfully your wife can also accept your mother.

Wishing you my heartfelt prayers,
Caringheart