sexless marriage what to do?

Great topic!

The Quran gives the solution. You take on a second wife and make sure you don’t stop pursuing and loving your first wife.

I think that you both need to see a sex therapist or something like that. Counseling should help. Usually, the problem is in your head. The anxiety is a very big problem, it just doesn't let you focus on that, because you have too much worries. You need to calm down, talk to each other, try some foreplay. If even this won't help, I would recommend you to buy the best generieke levitra, it's cheap and will raise your libido. But be careful, don't mix it with any other substances and don't abuse it.

Salaam.

I understand what your wife is going through. I went into menopause at the young age of 33. Please forgive me for being blunt, but sex after menopause HURTS!! I avoided sex for almost a decade because it was so painful.

I have been on hormones for more than 15 years now, and I can tell you that it makes a wonderful difference. If your wife takes hormones she will start to feel more passion again because sex will not be something to fear. Her desire for you will return. BUT, you must remember that it takes 6-8 weeks for the hormones to become effective, so do not expect an immediate result.

If your wife does not want to take hormones, olive oil is what my doctor recommended to me. Yes... Olive oil. ONLY olive oil is good for the insides. She said that it does just as good of a job at restoring the woman's inner places as hormone creams. (I tried it, and it's true.) Unfortunately, it won't give her back her sex drive, but she may be more inclined to fulfil your needs if she knows it will not hurt.

I know some will say you should just pray to Allah about your wife. But, Allah has allowed these medicines to be created so we can use them. If He has allowed them, we can take them. I do not know of any medicine, or hormones, that is haram.

My husband and I have a sizeable age difference (I am older). Without hormones, I could not please my husband as Allah instructs wives to do. My husband is happy. I am happy. And I believe that Allah has blessed us both because we are husband and wife in all ways.

As for the English woman... Put her out of your thoughts. If you are surrounded by women who tempt you, then you should find another job until your wife feels able to attend to you. Mohammed (PBUH) taught that if you see a woman who causes you to lust, you must go straight to your wife and satisfy yourself with her. Since you cannot do this, you should avoid being around women at the workplace.

I would pray and beg Allah's guidance and forgiveness.

Stephanie