Parents want to divorce

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   Wa alaikum,Sorry to hear about the mess you are going through.
1. Your parents have to resolve their differences. You or your brothers did not create them and you are not responsible for them.
2. You have your own life. Focus on your life. You should tell both of them that you are not a party to either, and they have to resolve their differences.
3. Tell them you love both of them, and you will fulfil your responsibilities towards them by being respectful to both of them.
4. If that means you and your brothers have to move out, do that.
5. You are an adult and should start taking responsibility of your actions.
May Allah protect you and your family.
Aslam Abdullah

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Dr. Aslam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Admin Group Male Islam Joined: 24 February 2018 Location: California, USA Status: Offline Points: 279	Post Options Post Reply Quote Dr. Aslam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Parents want to divorce Posted: 11 January 2022 at 3:44pm
	Wa alaikum, Sorry to hear about the mess you are going through. 1. Your parents have to resolve their differences. You or your brothers did not create them and you are not responsible for them. 2. You have your own life. Focus on your life. You should tell both of them that you are not a party to either, and they have to resolve their differences. 3. Tell them you love both of them, and you will fulfil your responsibilities towards them by being respectful to both of them. 4. If that means you and your brothers have to move out, do that. 5. You are an adult and should start taking responsibility of your actions. May Allah protect you and your family. Aslam Abdullah
	Best Regards, Aslam Abdullah

Mira21 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Islam Joined: 20 December 2021 Location: Germany Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mira21 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 December 2021 at 1:02pm
	Assalam aleikum, I am 26 years old and live with my familiy in Germany. I am finishing my Master and today had a halftime job offer as teacher which I am going to accept. My parents are fighting and my mum wants a divorce. The problem is, my father doesn't work, my mother does. He is a stay at home dad. So today he came to me and told me, that as I am working, him and I can move out and rent an apartment and my mum can live with my other 3 brothers in our current apartment. He said the same thing to my younger brother (22) who is already working but and has already everything planned to go in February for a vacation. I don't want to move in with him oder my mum. If I could and if it weren't for my youngest brother I would move out and let them fight their own fight. But they aren't fighting fair. Both are trying to get us on their own side and I am not strong enough for this whole thing. If I told them I want to move out, I know what my dad would do. What are the islamic rules concerning this topic? I would give my dad the money to move out but I know that he will never speak to me again because he will say I wasn't a good daughter to him and that I am just as bad as my mum. If I move out with him, my mum will say the same thing to me. I don't want to get involve but they don't understand. I am so tired of everything. Because of them I am always sitting in my room. Trying to minimize the contact to them and at the same time be a good daughter. I really need help, because my dad always says read the quran to prove that he is the one who is in the right. And my mum starts to cry which I can't handle. Thank you in advance and excuse my bad English.