Is my secret marriage valid? (68)

The validity of your marriage in Islam hinges on a few key conditions, and it sounds like your situation may not have fully met these requirements. In a marriage, the presence of a wali for the bride is a significant condition for the marriage to be valid. The wali is usually the father, but in his absence or lack of capability, another male relative can serve as the guardian. A valid Islamic marriage requires two Muslim witnesses to be present and witness the marriage contract. Public declaration of marriage is generally preferred to avoid any confusion about the relationship. Given the complexity of your situation, I recommend consulting a knowledgeable scholar or imam for guidance specific to your circumstances. They can assess the situation and provide you with the best course of action.