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Hayfa wrote: Furthermore, the child should not walk too fast nor should keep his/her hands loose [which is a sign of laziness] but instead, the child should keep his/her hands close to the body and should be active. how in the world does this work? Should you tie their arms to their body?? And at what ages are they talking about? Kids need to be kids. hands loose?? What is that?? Not make a fist? Where does this come from?  Today the world is moving in such a pace that there is a tremendous increase of crime in every country in the world, both east and west, both Muslim and Non-Muslim. No country is spared these terrible vices and the victims are 99.9% women. I have to respectfully disagree.  99.9 is not accurate. I have to say I am very wary about reading things on the internet and knowing who is a �scholar� and who is not. And any good web site gives hadiths and often a good place will offer if there are differences (as there are in some cases).  Anyone can claim anything. Sometimes when we write we don�t realize how our tone can come across or how it is being interpreted.

Jenni wrote: alwardah, I should not step out of my home without a Maharam, are you joking??? Don' you think 48 miles was because women had to cover it on foot and it took days? Many women today commute in my area more than 48 miles to work. What you are saying sounds just like the Taliban in Afghanistan. The women there could not leave the home without a Maharam and they SUFFERED GREATLY because of it. I totally disagree with you!

Bismillah,

I agree with you, Sister Hayfa and Sister Jenni.

Edited by herjihad

alwardah, I should not step out of my home without a Maharam, are you joking??? Don' you think 48 miles was because women had to cover it on foot and it took days? Many women today commute in my area more than 48 miles to work. What you are saying sounds just like the Taliban in Afghanistan. The women there could not leave the home without a Maharam and they SUFFERED GREATLY because of it. I totally disagree with you!

amah wrote: Alwardah wrote: I agree that Hadith may not apply today. Kindly explain this, i hope i am not misinterpreting you. Do you mean  hadith gets outdated??

As Salamu Alaikum

Audho Billahe minash Shaitanir-Rajim! Astaghfirullah! I did not mean that the Hadith as a Hadith does not apply today Astaghfirullah! How can I when I know it is Authentic and recorded in both Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Let�s look at the wisdom behind this Hadith. Did the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) make such a statement because he did not trust women? NO� the message of this Hadith is protection of women.

This Hadith is valid today as it was 1400 years ago.

I was commenting on:

Another good one, ladies  I hope you don't fly alone or drive more that 48 miles to visit your parents!!!!

If we look at this Hadith only in terms and time and distance according to our generation then let�s look at the reason behind this Hadith and that is protection of women and apply this Hadith to our societies with the increase in crime, then women should not step outside their homes without a male escort. Here the sister is making a joke of traveling 48 miles today without a Mahram, I was pointing out to her she should not step outside her home without a Mahram.

Insha Allah I pray the explanation is clearer this time.

O Allah forgive us our shortcomings. Ameen!

Wa Alaikum Salam

 

Sister Danty, i am not putting words in your mouth, when i say "we", i mean in general, i am not doubting you one bit or accusing you of anything.

You said yourself that you travelled with your husbands permission and if he would not allow , you will not travel. If you think you did not disobey the prophet in this matter, thats your opinion. Allah knows best.

I know circumstances for some women are so bad, they have no man to take care of them and they have to do evreything on their own. And always necessity overrules prohibitions.

I am sure you are trying your best too, to follow the right path. i am sorry if you misunderstood me.