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UmmTaaha 
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 Topic: Having doubts about hijabPosted: 06 November 2006 at 12:35am |
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Masha allah Sis JR, I applaude your himmah, and your love to follow the deen. May allah give reward you immensely and may He shower countless blessings on you. Ameen. If you stand up for who we are, and what we want for ourselves, and insha allah if such is to please allah subhan wa ta�la, it is the route to peace and happiness, insha allah.
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J.R.
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Posted: 05 November 2006 at 5:15am |
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No, non-Muslims would ask if I had cancer. :)
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Posted: 05 November 2006 at 4:33am |
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Muslims would ask if you had cancer?
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J.R.
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Posted: 03 November 2006 at 5:49am |
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Assalamu Alaikum,
Here's what the Islamicity Imam(s) say about the issue and I feel it does have credence. "And say to the believing women to lower their gazes and guard their chastity, and let them not display of their charm - except what is apparent." (An-Nur: 31) Commenting on the phrase, "what is apparent", Ibn `Abbas, the famous Companion and the Qur'an exegete, said, "It means face and hands." In other words, according to Ibn `Abbas, a woman must cover all her body except her face and hands while in the presence of men who are not related to her directly (and the list of those in whose presence she need not cover is clearly outlined in Surat An-Nur: 31). I used to cover my hair in the way you described. That was kind of my first step towards what is considered "regular" hijab, if you catch my meaning. :) I felt that my hair would slip out of the bottom in the back and the sides near the ears. But at the same time I do feel if you're still doing that for Allah (swt) then it is good. Just listen to your heart. I did get a lot of questions from people when I wore my hijab that way. They would often ask if I had cancer. Actually, I still get asked that from time to time even with the way I cover now. You do raise a lot of good points and I too am still not always clear on how to answer it. Allah knows best. |
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Posted: 03 November 2006 at 12:31am |
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salams what is the actual defintion of hijaab. i get very confused by this concept. is it wearing a scarf over ur head so that ur head and shoulders are covered . or can u wear a scarf to cover ur head only, i.e hair and ears not necessarily the shoulders' during ramadaan i used to waer my scarf to cover my head , ears and shoulders and i got alot of negative comments . now i still wear a scarf but i dont tie it to cover my shoulders. just my head and ears. but i do dress modestly. i dont wear tight fitting . but i also wear jeans and long tops, i sometimes wear a bandenna to cover my hair. my hair is never exposed whikle im out of the house now im not sure if im wearing hijaab or not. that is becos i have realised that i dont know what exactly hijaab means. does wearing hijaab mean that ones ears and neck can never be exposed thus ones earing and necklace will not show. im confused by this now cos i love my jewellry and when i used to tie my scarf dupatta style, i never wore earings or a necklace
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Posted: 24 October 2006 at 6:59pm |
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As'salemokium EID MUBAREK Mashallah Sister J.R. -very happy to hear about you!
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Surah 3 Ayat 186
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Posted: 24 October 2006 at 4:48pm |
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Alhamdilal Sister J.R. I'm glad to hear that you feel physically safe. I've seen sisters suffering from Post Trumatic Stress disorder and extreme Islamaphobia. I'm glad you have come to a place of peace, contentment, and self acceptance. May your continous journey to Allah, be what you hope for and ever more. |
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J.R.
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Posted: 24 October 2006 at 4:22pm |
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Assalamu Alaikum Sisters,
Mashallah, there is no doubt of the intelligence of you all. I know you are all saying what is in your hearts and you all equally have good intentions. Well I still am wearing my hijab despite that one day of going without it as I posted earlier. I agree that in extreme situations maybe the hijab would be permissable to remove. Although my mental health may still be at risk while I'm living in this town, I don't feel physically threatened. I have in the past been verbally assaulted by men in passing cars while walking to the sore alone. Since then I wear a hijab but a hooded sweatshirt over it so it doesn't draw so much attention. As long as my hair is covered who cares HOW it's covered. Obviously in the hot temperatures I'd look like an idiot walking aorund in a sweatshirt w/ the hood up! :) In that case I just didn't walk around alone outside. I thought about totally boycotting that mosque due to what the Imam suggested and just felt let down by lack of support by the Muslims. But recently I went back for Eid dinner. I feel I have to continue to show my point of view by showing up in hijab. I'm not judging anyone who doesn't wear it, but I guess for me I still believe in it enough to feel weird and disconnected without it. I also believe I should stand up for my faith and live my beliefs, not how others want me to live. If I followed that, then i'd still be in the faith I was raised with. Allah knows best. |
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