Polygamy

Wa'lakum As'Salaam-

Proudmuslima, has your husband always have a problem with you wearing heels? Will he be more accepting of it if maybe if it was done more so out of 'special occasions', then compared to casual times? Are they ALL heels he are against, or heels of particular height?

Sister I know you may be upset to see your co-wife 'getting away' with doing something. But try real hard not to show this emotion to her, because no good results will come from it. Is your husband even aware that she wear heels also? Or do she wear them when he is not around?

I have heard reasons on why heels are disliked in Islam. To a  certain point I can agree with it though, but I think its the length of the heel that makes the difference. Before reverting back to Islam I LOVED shoes. I even worked part time selling woman shoes. I loved tall heels, I like my heels as long as four inches. Also because I'm really petite ( 5 feet) I liked them because they made me taller.

But I have to consider that heels interfere with my modesty. Some heels are 'sexy'. Alot of them are made to be. That was a image when I reverted back to Islam I did not want to portray. By no means am I saying you wear heels to be sexy. But I would say that maybe you may want to ask yourself what is it about the heels YOU like. Whatever the reason may be, is it something you can 'sacrifice' for the sake of pleasing your husband? If you want to remain wearing your heels though I would suggest talking directly to your husband about the mattter, to avoid building up negative emotions. This way the matter can be resolved swiftly.

Also maybe the two of you can go shoe shopping together, and you can get a idea of the shoes he like.

As'Salamu Alaikum,

Sister, when your husband does n't like you to wear it, then do stop it. Don't compare yourselves with the other wife of his. All you need to do is be obedient to your husband { As Islam commands it} and thus gain his love and trust in you. If you go for comparisions with her, you may not be with peace within you nor can gain your husband's love. Is n't it ?

As'Salamu Alaikum

Masha-Allah sister, you are very good muslimah.

Getting married does n't mean that we leave our friends and family.  But you need work our very carefully here. Don't ask him as why is he not allowing you to wear it while allowing her ? This way it may lead to arguement. If you wish to wear it, in his good moods, slowly bring up this discussion and let him know that you love wearing heels. But never ever talk of her. Same thing of friends and families too. He may not agree in the very first discussion. It may take some time. May Allah swt bestow you with lots of patience. Don't forget sister, all this is rewarding for you. The real life that matters us, is hereafter.