Polygamy

Asalamu Alaikum

My sisters Yes im a practing muslim and im grateful that im able to ask for advise to other muslim sisters. I respect everyone opinion and i appreciate that u all r trying to help. Im battling with myself right know because i just cant keep my mouth shut, its really eating me up inside. I need clarification from him. Because hes a good man and follows Quran and Sunnah to the best of his ability, so far Alhamdulila, I have to ask him why, what r his reasons. Weve been married only 2yrs. and Alhamdulia for the most part hes been equal with us with the exception of this problem. I do get jealous many times but i get over it because i know that wheather i like it or not he has to do whats right and i do want jannah for him as he wants it for me.  I do know that no one is perfect and that he is not trying to hurt me but at times he does.

Salaams ProudMuslim,

Yes it can be terribly isolating. May Allah forgive these women for treating you poorly.

We reverts, often go through a tough time in tis regard.. We often need support but often do not find it.  And we are often isolated georgraphically from each other.

Part of your feeling is that HE (your DH) is your only outlet. Yes we need to give to them. But if we remember in the Prophet's time, later in life he had several wives. So between them, his leading the community, his own prayer, educating, being a statesman, he was pretty busy! Plus back in that day, you worked to survive.. grow food etc.. Many of his wives helped with the poor, had their own businesses.. had each other..

What else do you do? Do you have any part-time work, do you volunteer, have hobbies?

I see nothing wrong with asking him, just you must pick your time and place...

Where are you sister? I private messaged you..

My Duas for you.

Hayfa

Thanks Abuayisha for the link! I added it to my 'favorite' list. Lot of info on it, I will have to return to it to 'sink' it in.