Adultery

If a married man looks at another woman lustfully. Hs he committed the sin of adultery in his heart, even tough not having acted upon it ? Christianity believes this kind of thing is adultery and true adultery is committed in the heart. My friend argues with me, and says that looking but not acting are not adultery. I said that if you were with your wife and are thinking about being with another, you don't see this as adultery ? He said no.

Can anyone clear this for me - using scholars etc if poss ? I just think it's terrible that a spouse would deceive himself and his wife believing like this. It undermines trust, the relationship and the marriage.

This other friend, whom he lusts for, but has not acted upon, sails about with him in his home town pretending to everyone they are just best of buddies. Both families are utterly deceived. But he is all charm and smiles and fools easily.  It disgusts me no end that he told me,, and will be the end of this farce of a friendship. He's not the person I thought he was at all.

What is adultery in Islam ?  I know he is committing adultery, amongst other things and I will win this argument fore I tell him to take a hike.

God Bless

I have heard that from Muslims too Gulliver- Is there anything in the Quran?  Maybe the person is a Quran only Muslim.

I don't think it has much to do with the Qu'ran, Believer. Just someone trying to justify himself  to the point of absurdity.

I suppose we are all spiritual adulterers, and that is perhaps what Jesus was referring to also. Maybe more so. Jesus did say something about placing anything or anyone - father, mother, brother or sister before Him - meant that person was not worthy to follow. Something like that.

I think Muhammad said something similar ?

Placing any 'love' before the love of God adulterates that love, makes it less pure than it should be. That's the real adultery we should be concerned with perhaps.

Betrayal is a terrible thing and I have a hard time with 'infidels'. They should all BURNNN IN HELLL ;-) lol 

Where the heart lies, the feet will wander.

God bless folks.