Mixed Marriage

Thanks for the advice. I'll be trying that.

asslamu alikum
I 100% agree that u should be more patient with her. Allah is the only one who brings the islam in her heart. But u shouldnt give up. I believe the best way is to be a good example of a good muslim. Show her the great islamic good manners and kindness. Say the right word in the right place.
I also believe u need to ask a muslim scholar about ur case. We know Muslims can marry from the people of the book but how about the other religions? U should know.
Salam

Edited by Full of Hopes - 01 December 2009 at 9:11pm

Assalam Alykum,
praying for her guidance and becoming the best a Muslim example can be is the key as most of us agree and suggest.
I would also say have you mentally prepared yourself if she does not become a Muslim? What have you planned for that? Have you talked before what happens in case if you have children? what about the household, will it be a Muslim household or not regardless of her becoming Muslim or not?
The reason I bring these thing up is due to the fact that I was in a similar situation. When I married my first and only wife, she was not a Muslim, and I was not a practicing Muslim. But it must be a blessing and my mothers prayers that I showed my concern to my future wife about future direction of our household, and Children.  I  told her that I love her and want to marry her but if these conditions were not acceptable to her I cannot go on with marrying her, as to me she is important but so is what follows it. I promised her that I will not force her in becoming Muslim and it is not a condition for getting married.
We agreed and were satisfied and we got married. Alhumdolillah we have been married for almost 14 years and she took Shahadah more than seven years ago. She comes from Catholic and Christian backgrounds, but herself never into organized religion. Even before saying Shahada she was helping raise our kids Muslim, even taking them to mosque and teaching them about Islam. May Allah reward her for that.
Even though I had promised her that she don't have to become Muslim, I was ready, even though it was hard, in case if she does not become Muslim.
So, regardless of the outcome, have you set a clear direction for your household with her? If not, I would suggest, its never too late. And get to an agreement which is acceptable to her and to you without sacrificing  Allah's commands.
Meanwhile I will pray that Allah help you to overcome your faults, and open her heart to the truth, Ameen.

Hasan


Edited by honeto - 24 December 2009 at 5:18pm