Hindu Muslim marriage

Salam,

Asalaam Samee,

Welcome to the Forum

I agree with Chrysalis, you should discuss it with him and his family. Every family is different in terms of what they expect in a marriage for their relatives.

Whether you marry him, "love" can be tricky. It can blind us to things we should pay attention to when we marry.

#1: The piety and character of this man. I would also include, to a degree the family is you would a lot of contact.

#2: you should have a Wali- make guardian asking questions. You should read up on your rights and responsibilities in marriage. And does HE know these as well.

#3: You have a right to a dowry.

#4: you have a right to your own home. You are not required to take care of his family. You can decide to, but you are NOT required to.

#5: I would do EVERYTHING to educate myself before marrying regarding Islam. To the best of your ability. This way you know what may be cultural and what is Islamic. Having your own place to live (if you want) for example.

#6: know first and foremost, marriage is a contract. Love is great, and you should also look out for yourself. If you become a Muslim, you have to be very proactive in terms of your own Islamic knowledge and education. Just because someone is "born" into Islam does not mean they know alot. Or they take their culture to be Islam.

Ask away with any questions you may have. We are generally a friendly group of people.

Hayfa

Samee wrote: Aslaam Allaikum, Thank for your replies. It was helpful for me. To Chrysalis, Hi Sister, yes he too loves me truly and he wants me to marry me with our parents permission.

In that case both of you should hurry this blessed matter, Allah Willing !

I like to ask something else here. In Islamic culture is there any superstitious believes. Because, when i told my parents about my love with a Muslim guy and i too want to get converted to Islam, they dint accept as usual. But i was strong in my decision of getting converted into a Muslima and marry him. And today through my sister they told that my horoscope tells if i marry him, he will die or will commit suicide. And also things have happened in my house as astrologer said(like i will quit my job during the month of may, which happened as she told). So,I am very much afraid if anything would happen to him, because i love him soooooo much. I dont want anything bad to happen to him.

No sis, thankfully there are no such superstitions in Islam. Superstitions are not liked, and we do not believe in such things. Of course you shall find that many Muslims do believe in such things - but that is a cultural influence. A lot of muslims in the subcontinent have adopted Hindu or other superstitions because of common history. However according to Islam (islamic teachings) there are no such superstitions. The only thing that matters for a marriage to take place in Islam is the willingness of both parties i.e. bride & groom. Thats it. No horoscopes, no special days etc. It can take place any time and day.

So don't pay heed to such information at all. In islam we have a firm belief that no harm or good can come to a person unless it is Allah's Will. And nobody can alter that Will - what is meant to happen shall happen. So we as Muslims are supposed to leave matters of fate in Allah's Hands and not worry about superstitions. There is no way to predict or prevent what lies in our future.

Please advice me and tell me if there are any prayers that i can do, so that nothing will happen to his life..

There are no such special prayers that a Muslim woman has to do for her husband (unlike Hinduism, perhaps that's where you got the idea?). However, when you pray (i.e. make salaat / namaaz) then during your "Dua" i.e. Supplication - you can simply ask Allah to extend his life with good health, or pray that He keeps you both together in the world and hereafter. Or keep you both happy etc. There are no other formalities or special worship . . . just ask Allah !



 

I am praying at 3'O clock as one of friends told me that if we pray at 3'O Clock, Allah will listen to our prayers and fulfill our wishes. Please sisters and brothers help me. I am totally upset on hearing this. I want him to live happily for more than 100 years. Please can anyone of you help. Waiting for your replies. Thank you so much for this forum.

Rather than put a number (age limit) to both of your lives, simply pray to Allah that He gives you both good companionship in each other, and keeps you here on earth as long as it is good for you. In good health and good times . Afterall, as Muslims we believe that life on earth is not the end of it ! inshAllah (Allah Willing) you both will live an eternal life together in Heaven as well !

As for 3:00 being a good time - I am not aware of such a thing. Don't rely on that information.  However there are certain times when we are encouraged to pray as Muslims, and Prophet Muhammad told us that Allah pays special attention to His people during such times:

1. Before Sunrise, known as "Tahajjud" time, i.e. before the Fajr prayer. This is because it is a time of solitude, and people who wake up to make supplications during this time are earnest & focused. The intensity and sincerity with which we make Dua is very important.

2. During times of sickness, distress or Travel - because a muslim is vulnerable at such times, and needs Allah more than ever.

3. During a state of Fasting, (Ramadhan is on the way! So make use of it !) and right before breaking our fast i.e. before sunset, (before maghrib prayer)

Hope that helps inshAllah. Goodluck Sis !

Bismillah,