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   Salam,
I am a arab muslim girl i am 18 years old just starting college about 1 month ago i went to a arab chat to meet one of my friends and this guy instant messaged me. I normally dont talk to them but, for some reason i felt i needed to talk to this person. I started talking to him and he seemed like he hated me so i told him i dont want to talk to him. Then he told me he was sorry and for us to start over. I agreed and i found out that he actually was from the same town i am from back home and he know my family our grandfathers grew up together and are really close. Even though i never meet their family. He seems really nice and i get along with him very well. Every time he gets online he sends me a text message telling me he is online and i get on and talk to him. He goes to my grandfathers brothers house and talks to him. We say were just friends and he even says were friends but recently he said he starting to feel more for me than just friends. But he aslo said we dont know each other that well so its better to be friends until we get to know each other better. We are identical we think alike our personalities click and everthing is good. Im so confused can someone help me. I dont know if what i am doin is 7aram or not. My mom knows and she said to talk to him. The later on she tells me 7aram and gets mad. What do i do? Someone please help me and give me some advice.
                                                 Salam ,
                                                                        Concerned Sister

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syrianblue3y3s Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 29 August 2005 Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote syrianblue3y3s Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: please help me! Posted: 29 August 2005 at 1:10pm
	Salam, I am a arab muslim girl i am 18 years old just starting college about 1 month ago i went to a arab chat to meet one of my friends and this guy instant messaged me. I normally dont talk to them but, for some reason i felt i needed to talk to this person. I started talking to him and he seemed like he hated me so i told him i dont want to talk to him. Then he told me he was sorry and for us to start over. I agreed and i found out that he actually was from the same town i am from back home and he know my family our grandfathers grew up together and are really close. Even though i never meet their family. He seems really nice and i get along with him very well. Every time he gets online he sends me a text message telling me he is online and i get on and talk to him. He goes to my grandfathers brothers house and talks to him. We say were just friends and he even says were friends but recently he said he starting to feel more for me than just friends. But he aslo said we dont know each other that well so its better to be friends until we get to know each other better. We are identical we think alike our personalities click and everthing is good. Im so confused can someone help me. I dont know if what i am doin is 7aram or not. My mom knows and she said to talk to him. The later on she tells me 7aram and gets mad. What do i do? Someone please help me and give me some advice. Salam , Concerned Sister Edited by syrianblue3y3s

MOCKBA Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Joined: 27 September 2000 Location: Malaysia Status: Offline Points: 1410	Post Options Post Reply Quote MOCKBA Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 August 2005 at 6:00pm
	Bismillah Wa'alaikumu salaam dear sister. Firstly, let me make it clear that this forum is not the right place to seek answers on the matters of what is haram and what is halal as it does not have qualified enough people to do so (unless the matter is absolutely clear in Islam). Those living in western countries, having been raised on a foundation of un-Islamic pracitices may not be very familiar with social environment of the Arab communities and consider the situation that you have described as completely innocent. Whereas you will hear an opposite view from those that are closer to your way of life. As Muslims, we should also be aware of the importance of obedience to our parents with special emphasis given to our mothers. If your mother dislikes something then you should avoid doing it unless what she dislikes is Allah's command. Through such obedience to your parents, Allah will reward you, He will protect you from the evil that may be just around the corner and guide you to the way which will be best for you. And Allah knows best.
	MOCKBA

Saido Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 28 July 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 64	Post Options Post Reply Quote Saido Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 August 2005 at 9:44am
	Asalamu Alaykum I was listening to Yahya Ibrahim's lecture "What Have you Done for Islam" and in that lecture he was asked a similar question about the internet. His reply was "As for the internet, it's something haram to build relationships upon because people lie." I hope that can help Insha Allah. Salaams

firewall Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 06 November 2004 Location: Malaysia Status: Offline Points: 215	Post Options Post Reply Quote firewall Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 August 2005 at 5:25pm
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Brother123 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 22 April 2005 Status: Offline Points: 84	Post Options Post Reply Quote Brother123 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 06 September 2005 at 2:21pm
	Asslamaulikum, firewall. he is not her mahrem so it is impossible to treat him like just a friend. Thats why no chating with guys in islam. Any sis syrian he should go to ur dad an propose. If he doesnt wnat to they he shoulnt talk to u. If e wants to know soem more things about u then he can talk to u infront of your father and then make up his mind. And your dad needs to know if he is good enough for you look at marriage section on http://www.shariahway.com/marriage take care walikum salam

mouhssine4 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 06 September 2005 Location: Morocco Status: Offline Points: 30	Post Options Post Reply Quote mouhssine4 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 06 September 2005 at 3:56pm
	why do you guys torture yourself you wanna be friends than meet in public and be friend (i mean friends no touching, no hikypinky, and of course no dialogue rated R ok) but cyberchating and for long hours that is just time wasted in nothing, what kind of rommaince will you have sitting in front of you pc knocking that keyboard and trying to get in front off that small and stupid camera

herjihad Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2473	Post Options Post Reply Quote herjihad Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 September 2005 at 11:16am
	Bismillah, Syrian, do you talk to your mom about things? She loves you and wants the best for you, doesn't she? Ask her advice and tell her how you feel. A relationship that is Islaamic will involve your family too. Allah, SWT, be with you.
	Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.