Infertility and Islam

Angela wrote: I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome....very severe to years of misdiagnosis.  I need expensive medicines and treatments.  Unfortunately in most States and for most insurances, fertility is a luxury and not covered.  My husband and I are too poor to afford the medication, treatments and doctors visits.  So, we are looking into adoption instead.  Our church subsidizes adoptions and it is only 10% of your income to adopt with a minimum of $4000 dollars.  We are going to start the process sometime next year.  My aunt was barren for most of her marriage, then suddenly at 38 yrs old, she had my cousin Lydia.  One child, that's all, but it was enough for her and my Uncle.  They love their little miracle, which she truly is.  They were not under a doctor's care when Lydia decided to join the family.  In that I will always hold hope. Maybe I will earn a blessing from God through my actions.  I believe in the end we will be rewarded for our own deeds.  Only he knows why I am tested like this, and I'm sure he has a plan for me that is bigger than I can see now. Thank you both for your encouraging words.

Have they started you on Glucophage? or the equivalent? You can get past insurance. The way to do that is tell them you have symptoms that are preventing you from doing you daily activities. Like pain in that area. The insurance company still need to treat the disease. It might affect your fertility but they need to do something about what is causing it.

Also, you might have to call the insurance co. and argue with them. For example, there is a test out there that men are given with their yearly exams. It is a blood test that detects cancer and the insurance co pays for this. The same test can be used to detect cancer in women but unless you know to call the insurance co and tell them you want it and tell your dr to test you for that it is not done not offered.

Lameese

There are only two foreign countries my husband and I have decided to adopt from....China because of their one child law has many girls who because they are second children and girls have no rights and no future....and Russia, because of my own heritage....but more than likely the child will have been born here in America.  Foreign adoptions are more expensive in our situation and it would also add to the expense to get the visas to travel and pick up our child. 

We actually talked about it this weekend and we've decided to adopt a toddler....they say that once a child passes the age of two in the adoption system, they are more than likely not going to get adopted so we are going to try for a 3 or 4 year old.

To answer about Glucophage...yes, they had me on it for 3 1/2 years now and it hasn't helped at all....and I'm currently fighting with United Healtcare to classify my condition as a health problem.  My grandmother was 33 when she had her hysterectomy and my mother was 40, I'm trying to argue preventive medicine considering the history of cancer in the women of my family.  But, its a fight that gets very emotionally draining. 

Not to put things to bluntly, but I think its Satan's way of preventing faithful women from getting help and doing their duties.  

Oh, I don't think my infertility is Satan's work....no, I know that's my trial....my Jihad, as you Muslimah's would say.  No, I think beauracracy and heartless accountants at medical facilities and the general giving everything a monetary value is how the Advisary does his work.  It is not always your heart he has to tempt to cause you misery.  But, you're right.  I need to keep my spirits up and remember to pray and be happy in the things I do have. God willing, one day I will have a baby of my own and maybe several others that I've taken as my own.  then I can have the joy of pulling my hair out when they become teenagers.  

Thanks,

Angie