Marrying a divorced woman

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   I think its silly to disown your kid because they are making an adult decision. A couple things to consider: 

1) If she is a divorced, becareful, not because she is divorced but there may be some hidden issues.

2) Although your parents want you to be with someone who has maintained their virginity, these days young girls are engaging in sexual activity outside marriage however whether they are a virgin or not is not important but whether they are a compatible mate for you.

3) If you still live at home and are about to make a decision that your parents dislike this may affect your living situaton.

Edited by Gibbs - 24 October 2010 at 11:28am

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Gibbs Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Guest Group Joined: 29 April 2009 Status: Offline Points: 939	Post Options Post Reply Quote Gibbs Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 24 October 2010 at 11:28am
	I think its silly to disown your kid because they are making an adult decision. A couple things to consider: 1) If she is a divorced, becareful, not because she is divorced but there may be some hidden issues. 2) Although your parents want you to be with someone who has maintained their virginity, these days young girls are engaging in sexual activity outside marriage however whether they are a virgin or not is not important but whether they are a compatible mate for you. 3) If you still live at home and are about to make a decision that your parents dislike this may affect your living situaton. Edited by Gibbs - 24 October 2010 at 11:28am

Nausheen Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 10 January 2001 Status: Offline Points: 4251	Post Options Post Reply Quote Nausheen Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 01 November 2010 at 1:43am
	I think marriage is the most important decision of ones life. If you land in a wrong marriage - ie married to a wrong person, the last think you'd want that it be someone elses mistake 'done to you' - ie a scenario in which parents end their kids in a wrong marriage. I would advice in marriage make your own mistakes, dont let your parents do that for you! That having been said, its your life, thus you should get the preroragative to choose, from your heart. If you like this girl, for all genuine reasons, you may go ahead. As far as convincing the parents is concerned, I would advice you may be patient and 'percevierent' and give them ample time to 'give in' to your wishes. This is my advice - maybe off trend, but still this is what I think! Edited by Nausheen - 01 November 2010 at 1:45am
	<font color=purple>Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR]

fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 01 November 2010 at 8:18am
	Dear Sister Nausheen, I would advice in marriage make your own mistakes, dont let your parents do that for you. The above statement could convey a wrong message,when u say u make your own decision it could be misunderstood by some,and they might think you should contact the propective personally and make friendship kind of thing and then decide.which is not Islamic,this is very dangerous for girls specially. You never pay for somelse mistake,its your destiny,we have rules to select your partner in islam and once you have followed just leave it to allah.no body can predict how the prospect will be, even after a deep loving affair before marraige people feel they made a mistake marrying the one they loved. If the daughter is trusting her father there for her best interest it is no harm,this also an ibdah that you obeying your fathers decision. Salam Faisal Edited by fais - 01 November 2010 at 8:21am

Fearfull Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Male Joined: 05 August 2011 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Fearfull Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 August 2011 at 11:34am
	As a person who has undergone divorce, I tell you be very careful. Divorce is one of the most painful experiences. If a man is ready to divorce a woman then it is an extreme step. Be wary why such a step was needed. Most couple will adjust and move on. If such a step was taken, then it was not done in the heat of the moment. It was well thought out and very painfil decision. Your parents are not trying to do bad things for you. They realize that part of the reason for you wanting to marry this girl is the compassion you feel towards her and her condition. Dont let sympathy govern your decision. My recommendation is to let the matter sleep for a few days while you pray to Allah for clarity and may He provide you that.

doherty12 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 16 November 2012 Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote doherty12 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 November 2012 at 12:52am
	By looking at your problem i may advice you to listen to your heart. If you know that women very well or if you have got a feelings for her then you can proceed to marry her. But in case you are marrying her in a hurry then you must think twice before going for it.

alia777 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 28 December 2012 Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote alia777 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 28 December 2012 at 4:20pm
	Asalaam alaikum, I am a Muslim sister who was divorced 6 weeks ago. My ex-husband and I divorced because we simply couldn't get along. We were together 7 years but we couldn't make it work. We had no support networks and in the end we both regretted the decision but it was too late. It causes me pain when I read people advising the OP to beware of this divorcee who he is interested in marrying. Who can guarantee the behaviour of any prospective spouse? I understand the sensitivity of the situation but life is not always black and white and it would be an injustice to view all divorcees as people of suspicion.

Mruben Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Joined: 30 December 2012 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mruben Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 December 2012 at 1:32am
	Salam Alikum I am a new Muslim, i like to know the ruling of marriage a divorce Sister, i need to ask the hand from her father or i just need to inform them i will marry with is daughter? I like to have some advice if is possible. Edited by Mruben - 30 December 2012 at 1:33am

Ibn Diallo Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Islam Joined: 22 April 2020 Location: Guinea Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Ibn Diallo Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 22 April 2020 at 7:49am
	Assalâmu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Ta'ala wa Brakaatouh! Please could you deepen a bit this comment where said " If she is, like you, 24 and was already married and divorced I'd say careful, you may be surprised by what you'll get yourself in?" I am very interested in this. I have a likely issue. Allah bless you,