What should I do????

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   Salaam Sisters,
   See I told u I would need your help sometime!
So here is the story! The man I am about to marry is acting weird towards me.  We use to see each other all the time, talk all the time, do anything just so the other one knows that that person is there and they still love them.  It's been a month since I've truly been happy with him.. I feel like I'm losing him.  When I talk to him, he gets mad when I tell him how I feel and says that I'm acting up.  He tells me that nothing is wrong.  At one point he did admit that he wasn't really treating me like he use to and told me that he was willing to spend more time with me and everything.  Now, he hasn't changed a thing and I haven't seen him for weeks.  Am I just acting up???  Is there something else I need to know?  Is someone out there willing to help me with any of this???  To guide me???
Thanks all!  See and I knew I would need u guys again
Taryn

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~Taryn~ Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 29 October 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote ~Taryn~ Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: What should I do???? Posted: 30 October 2005 at 11:59am
	Salaam Sisters, See I told u I would need your help sometime! So here is the story! The man I am about to marry is acting weird towards me. We use to see each other all the time, talk all the time, do anything just so the other one knows that that person is there and they still love them. It's been a month since I've truly been happy with him.. I feel like I'm losing him. When I talk to him, he gets mad when I tell him how I feel and says that I'm acting up. He tells me that nothing is wrong. At one point he did admit that he wasn't really treating me like he use to and told me that he was willing to spend more time with me and everything. Now, he hasn't changed a thing and I haven't seen him for weeks. Am I just acting up??? Is there something else I need to know? Is someone out there willing to help me with any of this??? To guide me??? Thanks all! See and I knew I would need u guys again Taryn

222dnallohc Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 March 2005 Status: Offline Points: 27	Post Options Post Reply Quote 222dnallohc Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 October 2005 at 2:12pm
	Assalamu Alaikum, Taryn, All I can say is that if you feel like things are weird...they probably are- a womans intuition! Trust your feelings and try work things out with him- try to find out what the underlying problem is. Can you involve a member of the community like the local imam for advice? My husband and I have been through tough times and did that once- it helped. Edited by 222dnallohc

Henna Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 28 July 2005 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 146	Post Options Post Reply Quote Henna Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 October 2005 at 5:49pm
	Dear ~Taryn~, he can have some problem (financially,family,work etc.) and that's why he is acting differently. Men don't like to talk about their problems, instead if this, they prefer to change their communication style with the others. (I studied mass&personal communication science, believe me :)) Don't pressure him, leave him alone for a while. Then, you can ask him as; how is going on at work, how are his parents. etc. Never ask him as; do you have any problem with me?! What's the problem? Am i doing something wrong? What's your problem etc.. I hope he's just tired of work or something like this.. Don't worry..

Mishmish Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 01 November 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1694	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mishmish Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 01 November 2005 at 3:50am
	Assalamu Alaikum: Maybe he's just busy with Ramadan? He might feel that if you are not yet married it is better if you don't see each other as much while fasting. It may seem strange, but perhaps being around you makes it hard for him to remain in a spiritual frame of mind. I guess you'll know if this could be the issue in a few days... Salaams.
	It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, what is essential is invisible to the eye. (The Little Prince)