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Salam,

The following is a nice artikel regarding istikhara including the do'a in arabic and the translation according the above hadith:

http://islam.about.com/blistikhara.htm

Salat-l-Istikhara

This "prayer for guidance" is often used to help in important decision-making

Anytime a Muslim is making a decision, he or she should seek Allah's guidance and wisdom.  Allah alone knows what is best for us, and there may be good in what we perceive as bad, and bad in what we perceive as good.

If you are ambivalent or unsure about a decision you have to make, there is a specific prayer for guidance (Salat-l-Istikhara) that you can do to ask for Allah's help in making your decision.  Should you marry this certain person?  Should you attend this graduate school?  Should you take this job offer or that one?  Allah knows what is best for you, and if you are not sure about a choice that you have, seek His guidance.

The Prophet Muhammad said, "If one of you is concerned about some practical undertaking, or about making plans for a journey, he should perform two cycles (rak'atain) of voluntary prayer."  Then he/she should say the following du'a:

Arabic:

 

Translation:

Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty.  You have power; I have none.  And You know; I know not.  You are the Knower of hidden things.

Oh Allah!  If in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me.  And if in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it.  And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it.

Transliteration:

Allahumma inni astakheeroka bi ilmik.  Wa'astaq-diroka biqodratik.  Wa'as'aloka min fadlikal-azeem.  Fa'innaka taqdiru wala aqdir.  Wata lamo wala-a lam.  Wa'anta-allamul ghuyoob.

Allahumma in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa'ajilah, faqdorho lee, wayassirho lee, thomma-barik lee fih.  Wa'in konta ta lamo anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee.  Wama ashi.  Wa ajila amri.  Wa'ajilaho.  Fasrifho annee.  Wasrifnee anh.  Waqdur leyal-khayr haytho kan.  Thomma ardini bih.

* When making the du'a, the actual matter or decision should be mentioned instead of the words "hathal-amra" ("this matter").

* After doing salat-l-istikhara, you may feel more inclined toward a decision one way or the other.

* For more detail on performing the prayer, please see:  Islam Q&A

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nadir wrote: I�m a bit of a �b-boy� (to use the �street terminology�)

What a coicidence. I taught a class a the History of Hip-Hop Culture one week ago. I am teaching a class on the History and Culture of B-Boys in one week.

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iman wrote:   salam islamic girl. yes jallilah Allah hates divorse.

like i said allah does'nt hate divorce allah said divorce is the most dislike practice but if the married couple does'nt find any other means for peace in their relationship and divorce is an alternative and allah the all knowing, see's all that you do anything you conceil or before you act on an act allah knows that too. what I'm trying to say' think before anyone leaps into divorce so please read through my post again...assalamulaikum

Assalaamu Alaikum

Islamicgirl

 

 

I truly hope that you are able to resolve your current dilemma (if you have not already done so), if you will please allow me, I would like to conclude (from a male perspective) the advice I have offered in this thread�..

 

 

I initially mentioned offering Salah/Du�a before partaking in the act of making Love, so that I might help distinguish between - senseless lust, & Meaningful Love.

 

From my own perspective, I have been blessed (by Allah�s leave, Glorified is He) with insight to perceive (although not always), when an action is motivated by �selfish desire�, or by �boundless compassion�. Hence (as I live in, & am exposed to Kufr ways) I created invisible (spiritual) barriers to protect my chastity, from the manipulation of other people�s - selfish desire.

 

It was with this spiritual issue in mind/heart, that I offered the advice I did. My own circumstances dictate that I need to seek/make such a distinction, so as not to feel as though I would be partaking in something �indecently lewd�. Hey, that�s not to say this advice is compulsory, rather a means to overcome an initial hurdle.

 

 

I obviously cannot speak for your husband, as I do not know the motivation behind his actions (or lack of them), maybe his problem is not spiritual (as my own problem illustrated above, & hence my advice would be fruitless), maybe it is a physical problem where Istikharah would be insufficient.

 

I do not know if you are aware of the �Accusation� that was levelled at Aisha (RA)? The Prophet (SAW) as always, led by example when dealing with the accusation. Rather than blindly following the false realities created by the accusers (initially he [SAW] was unaware of the truthfulness of the accusation), he (SAW) instead awaited Divine Intervention (the Truth).

 

Hence with this in mind/heart, my advice is that you refrain from creating a false reality with regards to what the problem is. Instead I advise, that you have a duty to Allah (SWT), & to your husband, to try your best to induce an explanation from him (& be open to whatever that explanation might be). Just as your husband, has a duty to Allah (SWT), to be honest & caring with you, by discussing the issue.

 

 

Insha Allah

 

 

nadir