Revert - How to

Brother123 wrote: Asslamualikum, one can marry a christain women if she is an honourable women . menaing that she has not indulged in sex outside marraige or kissing etc. however if a Chrsitaisn women ( or any kaffir women for that matter) converts to islam then her past sins are wiped out. Also a person should be encouraged to convert if they believe Islam is the truth. If they are not prefect Muslims then them still it is better than them being kaffir.   As long as they do not believe or do things that invalidate their Islam. Thinks that invalidate Islam please read on my site www.shariahway.com walikum salam Abuubaida

The allowance to marry Christian and Jewish women states that they are acceptable as wives for Muslim men if they are CHASTE women of the book.  They must be practicing their religion, avoiding sin, worshipping Allah as their religion has outlined, not just a card carrying Christian or Jew, because that's what their parents say they are.

The Christian and Jewish women at the time of the Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa salam covered themselves in proper hijab.  This was part of their religion then.  They obeyed their husbands, this was also part of their religion.  They didn't mix with other men.  They stayed in their homes and cared for their families. What you see today is not what the Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa salam experienced when he married Maryam.

I have seen the heartbreak of some brothers who married non-muslim women and when the children begin to grow, the brother begins to take his Islam seriously, but his wife cannot bear what she has been taught is oppression and possessiveness.  It tears the family apart.  And in the western nations, she has all the rights on the children.

Please advise your brother to find a better bride.  Love has nothing to do with it, what he is feeling is fleeting and will fade within the first year.  Real love and commitment takes time and patience, years!  He could find a better wife marrying a stranger who holds the same beliefs and boundries that he does.  No matter how much you think you love someone, if there is constant conflict in the home, you will eventually resent your spouse and destroy your family.

Salaam brothers and sisters in Deen,

Well when i started this topic i was very skeptical abt the insights tht i wud get. however, i held an assurance in my heart regarding the good quality of members on this discussion forum. Thus i always expected gud and insightful replies and suggestions.

I am so happy and feel content today to get what i wanted. You ppl have done a remarkable service by providing righteous suggestions.

After a lot of brainstorming and thinking over the subject and keeping in mind suggestions posted here, it has been finally decided NOT to marry this woman. Because we also chalked out a plan and tried to test this woman on Islamic perspectives.

We asked her many questions indirectly and gave her various scenarios over this period of a month (and all Questions and scenarios related directly or indirectly to Islamic rules).

This lady at the end turned out to be the modern day Christian who is as far from the true/right path as possible.

According to her respecting parents and giving thm time is crap and outdated. She says tht bozzing if done in control is infact gud for health. And many more...

Once again i thank all of you for replies to the topic. And helping a brother to keep to Righteous PAth.

Well i think i wud yet again bounce a query to all of u. This time a matrimonial one. If there are any sisters who r luking smone for marriage may consider this Guy of age 25, 5'11" height, fair color, average built, extremely intelligent and highly educated (from a very respectable family of the region), working as Consultant in a world's most reputed and one of the Fortune 20 IT organization. Currently settled in India. Highly Islamic upbringing and a very respectable guy because of his knowledgable and insightful views on almost any subject.

So u see tht i hav converted this topic to a matrimonial thing. i believe this wud help and i pray May Allah allow response from most suited partner for him, Inshallah.

May peace, blessings and mercy of Allah (swt) be on all of us, Ameen.

ur brother in Deen

Aamir