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Veronica, welcome aboard

I do advise to not send that letter to the guy's parents not until you learn some facts first about the situation and become aware of why he may not want his parents to know. I don't know what your friend has told you about islam. There is more to it than just race, yes you are right that race shouldn't be a problem, but in some people it does. As for religion, muslims (men) are allowed to marry outside of Islam but to only those who are Christian and Jewish. But I believe this situation has more to do with the fact that both of you are not married and did something against Islam and now you are pregnant. Men and women who are not related to each other are not meant to be alone (solely) together before marriage. The guy knows he did something wrong, this is why he is afraid he'll be disowned by his parents and that you may not be accepted and nor the baby, yes they have a right to know about their grandson, but its not as simple as you think that telling his parents and they'll turn around and embrace. You really need to know his situation.

At the moment I don't have a lot of time and cannot provide some proper islamic information.

Angel.

Hi Veronica,

I agree with Angel totally on NOT sending a note to his parents.  However, I do NOT agree with Angel on how being a Muslim male allows you to marry a non~Muslim.   Being a Muslim myself, I have been brought up and told that any Muslim, being male or female, needs Nikah done in order to get married (ie. Nikah is saying vows Islamically).  However, this is not the pin~point topic here. 

Your situation is tricky, not understanding how seriousley Islam takes the situation you are in, dear, can be a serious problem to both of you and the baby coming into your lives. 

I strongly recommend you stay out of his parent's life, talk to your boyfriend and explain that you did not do this on your own.  Therefore, he needs to grow up, if he's not working, to get a job and prepare to take the responsibility of a father now. 

I suggest, after the baby is born, if you respect Islam and the baby's father agrees, as well as yourself, convert to Islam, have a Nikah (whether you do it yourselves and tell your parents after)... and i'll just tell you one thing, you won't regret converting.  Trust me, as far off as it seems... His parents will always love him, 'coz they're his parents & your baby's grandparents.  Telling the truth after the baby is born will be more on your side, because when the parents see how beautiful their grandson is.. they will have a soft place in their heart for him & ofcorse their son too.

Islam is the most wonderfully/unique religion.  As a Muslim, you must know one thing, God is Most Compasionate, Most Merciful & Oft Forgiving.  I'm not saying convert for the man, but do it for yourself girl. 

All the Best with it all!

 

 

Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem

assalamu alaikum

IslamGirl i think you have made to many assumptions on how his people will react.

I am not judging you, that is Allah's place to do so.

In your situation UmmNoel The mesenger of allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said Islam wipes away all sins, meaning when a person converts to Islam all his past sins are wipped away and he becomes sinless.

The prophet also said those who were christians and jews and have converted to Islam recieve double the reward for there good deeds, becouse they believed in the previous revelation and they believed in Islam.

Bismillah,

I should add that his family over time accepted me and our children as much as any of their other son's wives and children.