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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote UmmTaaha Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 13 October 2006 at 8:04pm

Tamina,

I would not know the real answer to your situation, so please do not consider this more than a mere suggestion.

I think one should marry where one finds comfort of heart. It is important for the future of the marriage. However, as a muslim first of all one must also regard the matter of adherence to deen in the prospective spouse.

If the brother you like is a religious person, and your heart is giving him priority, you should go for him - this is only my opinion.

Many parents think nothing can be better for their children than what they deem right. Again you must check, if the person they  are chosing for you is religious or not. What are the basis on which your parents are choosing this person for you. Is it to strength the family ties, further their business relationship, or any other worldly motivation? or their choice is actually motivated through the sunnah ways of choosing a prospective husband for one's daughters.

It wont be wrong to say no to your parents, if their choices are not based on the sunnah.

 

 

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Salaam u alikum!

Let me start first with saying thank you so very much for responding back to my message ---- May Allah SWT rewrad you for it.

UmmTaaha, I dont like no one --- to me its not important to like anyone --- I believe in love after marrage ---- but I just didnt liked the fact of marrying my cousin --- he is overseas and i havent seen him --- and my parents wanted me to get married to him just caz they like him --- nothing before or after it ----- my dad is much better then my mum --- i dont have a big sister --- and it is hard for me to share it with anyone as my srouding is not muslims --- and if thr is they are family and i cant trust them to say all this ---- I am 22 and mum tell me it is about time to get married and that maybe afew years later no one would ask my hand --- and the friend that i am saying is just a friend -- and i was introduce to him by one of my friends and he is 30, my cousin is 27 -- so i dont know ---- but your words were the world to me --- it helped me alot and it made me feel so good, i mean it is great to see someone respond back --- may allah swt reward you for that.

thank you agian =]

wasalaam

Tamina

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Walaikum assalam Tamina,

There was nothing to thank me about, honestly I did not think I was doing anything great

May I ask you why you said no to your cousin after the istekhara? Did you receive any indication, in form of a inspiration or anthing?

Marriage decisions are difficult to make, but i do believe in getting married in an early age. The prophet (saw) has recommended this. If you are not busy in anything particular which necessitates delaying marriage plans, I think your mum is correct in advicing you to prepare for tying the knot. - Of course you should make the choice carefully, after having taken some steps to know a few details in your future husband.

 Make dua for yourself sister, especially in these last days of Ramadan, they are very special. Ask allah to send for you a husband with whom you can have a cherished marriage, and a relationships that aids your growth in deen, insha allah.

If you need to talk to anyone you can send me PMs.

 

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Some facts about Istikhaara

 

-Istikhaara means seeking divine help

 

-Istikhaara is really a state of mind, when one is faced with a dilemma and finding it impossible to make a decision, the muslim turns to Allah to help him the decision making

 

-Anyone can do istikhaara for oneself. There is absolutely no reason to ask someone else to do it

 

-Istikhaara is made by praying 2 rakats sunnah and making the dua for istikhaara. The dua is in Arabic and this is the translation. One condition is that the person has an understanding of the dua, that he/she has an awareness of what they are reciting. By reading the translation below, we know how beautiful this dua is.

 

O Allah I consult you as you are all-Knowing.

And I appeal to you to give me power as you are Omnipotent

I beg of your infinite bounty

You have the power and I do not

You know and I know not

You are the Knower of hidden matters.

O Allah, if in Your knowledge this matter (state the matter) is good for me in my religion, my livelihood and for my affairs (he also said �for my present life and future life�)

Then ordain it for me and make it easy for me.

 

And if You know that this matter is not good for me in my religion, my livelihood or for my affairs( he also said �for my present life and future life�)

Then keep it away from me, and take it away from me,

And choose what is good for me, wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.

 

(Bukhari)

 

-State your object for doing the salatul istikhaara and this completes it.

 

-The prayer can be done at any time.

 

-There is no need to offer extra sunnah. Simply do the dua after any sunnah of regular prayers.

 

-This prayer can be repeated for the same purpose any number of times.

 

-The goal of istikhaara is to get a peace of mind that now whatever turn your life may take, it is Allah�s Will and not yours.

 

-The common misconceptions especially among Indian-pakistani people is that �one should pray it at night and go to sleep and they will get a dream about what they should do�

Dream interpretation is a very serious matter and dreams may or may not be a result of the istikhaara.

�It should be done by a pious person�. Anyone can do istikhaara, Allah has never asked us to pray through someone.

 

I request anyone who reads this and anyone who wants to do istikhaara, please try to get the maximum information, there are many sites that can give you the sunnah way of doing things.

 

Najamsahar

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Wel said...

Barakallah Fi..

Acquisition of knowledge requires a great deal of patience and hardwork.
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Salam,

I tried to do as much research on the topic of Salat-ul-Istikhara as I could, however, my only resource really is the internet, so that is what i utilized.  Anyways, i prayed salat-ul-istikhara, according to how i was supposed to, and the first time i did it, nothing happened..in fact, i just felt numb, i mean i felt more before the prayer then i did after, and i dreamt nothing....(im praying salat-ul-istikhara bc i THINK im in love with someone, and he's made it clear that he's in love with me, but im just not sure if he's the one im meant to marry, as he lives in another country and with the distance, feelings can get greatly distorted) so i prayed it a second time, and this time, a little while after the prayer, while i was laying in my bed, i all of a sudden had this feeling, it started from the pit of my stomach, and then went throughout my whole body, a sort of fuzzy feeling, and all of a sudden i felt extremely light, like i could be floating, and this feeling made me want to smile.  It happened 3 times in total.... and then nothing, and then i fell asleep.  I was wondering if anyone could perhaps help me interpret this, or guide me to someone who could....unfortunately i live in a small muslim community, and so i cannot really ask anyone here for their advice, not even our religious leader, as everyone is a "family friend" and i really dont want this getting out, until im sure this is what i want.   Im still very confused....and i think i will do the isthikhara prayer again, until i find a more clear result, but i just wanted to know if i should be looking for signs like what i experienced, or am i too be looking for something else?

thanks so much,

wa'salam

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assalam alaikum
as u said k istekhara can b repeated for the same purpose any number of times. are u sure abt it?? it can b repeated any number of times if the situation is changing or u r getting confusion in doing smthing?
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Hi there, I know that you have posted this in 2006, however I am in the exact same situation as you and subhanallah I had the same exact dream as you.. I was wondering if you had ever gotten that dream interpreted and if you are still with your then fiancé. This might be a long shot but I am desperate as I am in a state of not knowing if my fiancé is the one for me. If this gets to you, please respond! Thank you ! 
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