A muslimah in frustration

As'Salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,

All my praises be to Allah swt. Am glad sister that we are back to normal moods. May Allah swt forgive us for being  indifferent to each other.  InshaAllah, i hope this discussion hereonwards, shall benefit us to gain knowledge with deep discussions.

Coming to one of   the points  of discussion in your above post -

"I was speaking in regards to the matter of this particular thread. Over and over again The Holy Quran states that men and women are equal in the judgement of Allah, yet for some reason many Muslims seem to choose the Hadith that denigrate women.

Certainly, Men and woman are equal in the JUDGEMENT of Allah swt. This term equality shall be discussed below , inshaAllah. Regarding that hadith, sister why do you look at it as women being denigrated. Infact you shud feel happy that women are being protected and taken care. Can you  kindly paste that hadith here again.

 
Hadith are the words of men regarding the actions and behavior of the Prophet. The Hadith are not the Word of God, nor has Allah guaranteed that the Hadith would not be free of mistakes, as with The Quran. "

So, will you rejects all the hadiths, as you feel they are not free of mistakes. These have been verified and reverified and then were collected . Hadith -e- Qudsi are word of God, though the verbatim differs. Anyways, the hadiths being quoted is authentic hadith. So, there rises no question of  mistakes in it.

Now, coming to an other point which needs a very detailed explanation - Men and Women in Islam

Let us first try to understand this tern 'Equality".   In  an other faith, women as a human being, irrespective of rights and responsibilities, is considered an inferior being, one  who committed the first sin and hence was condemned forever. She is considered inferiror. When the they  broke itself away from religion, at the  start of Renaissance, there was nothing which could provide as basis for the concept of equality between men and  women as human beings. So they then constructed a concept, which was based on having equal rights and responsibilities in different spheres of life. This is what the whole feminist movement is all about. - Even "Woman's day" is being celebrated, and all such movements and fights for rights , khayr. Now coming to Islam , Allah states  that men and women are created equal.  - We need to rememner that  this  equality does not mean  IDENTICALITY.  We are equal as humanbeings. But when we look at responsibilities and rights assigned to both men and women, they differ. Here Allah swt the - Al-Adl  { The- Just },  He takes them into account with equal justice, even after assigning then with different responsibilities according to there natural inclinations.

Allah swt says  "if any do deeds of righteousness - be they male or female - and have faith, they will enter Paradise, and not the least  injustice will be done to them."[4:124]. Dr. Zakir Naik  often explains this concept with this example. Before that let me quote a verse , "�And the male is not like the female� [Aal �Imraan 3:36] . This shows that both are not alike. Anyways, lets read this example.

The question paper consisted of 10 questions, each of 10 marks.

In the first answer student �A� gets 9 out of 10, student �B� gets 7 out of 10. So in question 1 student �A� has a degree of advantage than student �B�.

In question 2, student �B� gets 9 out of 10, and student �A� gets 7 out of 10. So in question 2, student �B� has a degree of advantage, than student �A�.

In the remaining 8 questions, both get 8 out of 10, and if you total the marks of both the students, both get 80 out of 100.

So if you analyze, both student �A� and �B� have got over all equal marks.

But in answers to some questions, student �A� has a degree of advantage and in answers to some other questions, student �B� has a degree of advantage - but in terms of overall marks, both are equal.

Since men and women both came from the same essence, they are equal in their humanity. Hope sister, you have now understood  my point well with the above example.

Now, let us see how this A  and B score up in different answers. I mean how men and women are assigned with different responsibilities.

Men can marry woman from ahle kitab and woman cannot.

A woman may wear silk and gold, but a man must not wear them

Prayer in the mosque is obligatory for men, but not for women; a woman�s prayer in her house is more beloved to Allah

Men are different from the female in many ways, in his strength, in his body, in his toughness and roughness, whereas women are soft and gentle, though sometimes they are very harsh.

Women are bore a child while men cannot.

 Women are weaker than men in memory and forget more than men. So two witnesses of woman are equal to one.

"And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women, such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her�

 One of them is asked to remind other because of there forgetful nature

Jihad is obligatory for men, but jihad in the sense of fighting is not obligatory for women.

Don't you agree sister that women are more emotional than men. When a child falls down and gets hurted, see the differences of reaction of a mother and a father. Men are not capable of doing women's job. They  can neither raise children nor can they provide the most necessary love and care to them.

And yes, not to forget  these two hadiths - "Paradise is under the feet of a mother " and the other one is

"A person came to Prophet Mohammed (saw), and asked him, �Who is the person who deserves the maximum love and companionship in this world ?�

The Prophet replied, �Your mother.�

The man asked, Who next?�

The Prophet said, �Your mother.�

The man asked, �After that who?�

The Prophet repeated for the third time, �Your mother.�

The man asked, �After that who?�

Then the Prophet said, �Your father.�

So, 75% or 3/4 of the love and companionship of the children are due to the mother and only 25% or 1/4 of the love and companionship goes to the father. In other words, the mother gets the gold medal, she gets the silver medal, as well as the bronze medal. The father has to be satisfied with a mere consolation prize.  Dr. Zakir Naik quotes this.

You did not want me to quote of  "Qawammah". So i leave it. And the other difference ---- yes, awarah is different for them. Men shud cover  the area between navel and kness, whereas its different for women.

Women are allowed to reject any marriage proposal made to her by prospective suitors, thus if she does not feel she can abide by the rules of the Qur'an and Sunnah if she marries a certain person, she can reject his proposal.