Having doubts about hijab

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Salaam

Talliyya sister your�post/comments are lovely�

But Sister J.R please note , entering paradise need sucrifices�the sort of
problems you are facing might be your test, be stable and�careful. Read
Narration of Sohaba (R).

Salaams

Assalamu Alaikum,
I know you're all trying to help me and may Allah (swt) reward you all. I
wasn't out for very long yesterday but like I posted earlier, I took my hijab
off. Last night I felt very weird, maaybe a little disconnected from my
thoughts on Islam. I told my husband last night I want to put the hijab
back on. He supports what I want but is afraid I'll end up depressed
again. I have soooo many voices going on in my head, one for every way
of thinking about my situation. I agree that Allah doesn't want our faith
to make us miserable yet I also believe this could be a test. I plan on
wearing it today. It may come across as hypocritical, taking it off one
day, putting it back on the next. I'm desperately trying to do the right
thing.
Sister Sky, what is the narration of Sohaba (R)?

Allah hafiz,
JR

Sister, the emotions that you are going through is cause of the community around you. Just an example, If suppose say you were living in a country like Saudi Arabia or a Muslim community in here. You wouldn't had dare to take out your scarf and been more strong about views on hijab. It's normal people go through stuff like that.Take as much time as you want.  Just remember that Allah is with you in your thoughts and in giving you courage. You are just confused right now. May Allah guide you and make things easy for you. (Inshallah) Don't stress out yourself. There was a way,  guidance from Allah how you approched it in the first place. Just pray & he will guide you even more and keep you close to him. As long as you try your best, that's what counts the most.

Edited by Dawn

3:8 "Our Lord!" (they say), "Let not our hearts deviate now after Thou hast guided us, but grant us mercy from Thine own Presence; for Thou art the Grantor of bounties without measure.

 

JR,

It is said that we must be careful about the scholars we consult. If a scholar or Imam is advising you something against the divine laws, you should be very weary of his opinion.

When the verse in sura maida was revealed that says allah has completed and perfected the religion for us, all women in the ummah were covering their hair, and dressing up modestly.

Whatever change in dress sense and concept of attire we see afterwards which has allowed women to expose their hair, shape of the body, or even their skin, is new. Rasul allah (saw) has said, anything new, which is not from this deen is rejected.  - Rejected means, the action is not accepted by Allah.

Why do we do acts of obedience? Allah is not in need of our obedience - then why do we tire ourselves with all that He has ordained? Ask this question to yourself, and contemplate on the answer.

We are obedient to Allah, because, the fruit of this obedience is felicity with Allah. This fruit one can enjoy only when the actions are accepted by Allah. Thus we must be careful what actions and what quality of obedience we present to Him.

It is said in the Quran that one who meets allah on the day of reckoning, with a sound heart has been successful. A sound heart is one which is free of His disobedience.  The actions of our limbs are reflected in the mirror of the heart. If the limbs are obedient, the heart automatically learns to be obedient.

We wear the hijab to please Allah subhan wa ta�la. The fruit of pleasing Allah is that we find peace within. We feel a nearness with Him, and a joy which is not found in anything wordly. If you are performing an action that is pleasing allah, how can it  give you stress.

Try to search within yourself why is it that an act of obedience is giving you stress. It could be that your attachment to these acts of obedience is feable or your understanding of why you perform them is not complete.

It does not matter if nobody in the community is wearing it. As long as you are in a state which pleases your Lord Most High, you are in safety. 

I agree that practicing the deen becomes reletively very easy if we are in the company of those who are practicing. However, if unfortunately such people are few, even then we are not free from the duty to practice. At the same time, the more the difficulty in adhering to this deen, the greater is the reward.

The nafs, scholars have related to as nafs al ammara bissu. The nafs, when it is not trained, commands us to do disobedience. If an action is pleasing to the nafs, know that it is displeasing Allah.  One must oppose this nafs, and do exactly opposite of what it commands. If you keep persisting in such a way, it will learn to become obedient, and even appreciate it, so much so that it will accept obedience as a natural disposition insha allah.

To cure depression, try establishing a living relationship with the Holy Quran. Recite a portion everyday - a portion enough that you can remain consistent with.  Read its meanings, tafsir - you will see within a month you have a bond with this book, and insha allah it will lift many of your worries. This Book says, that it is a healer, and a blessing to the believers. The reason why we do not find healing to our ailments in it is that we do not bond with it.

Do Dhikr of allah much, because the Quran says that hearts find rest in the rememberance of Allah.

Stay connected with people who call you to obedience of Allah, or the company of those motivates you in it.

Insha allah if you observe these you will find a change within yourself.

 

 

 

Salaam

The problem is not the sister's naffs. That's the least of her concerns.

If it were here naffs she wouldnt feel so broken hearted and conflicted about it.

Let me tell you sisters, unless you have lived in a situation like that, you don't know how it feels. I almost apostated as a result of my experience.

I know it's hard to believe, but Muslims are just as creul, and selfish as other groups of people.

Salaam