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    Posted: 16 September 2008 at 11:13am
Asalamu Alaykum
 
I need help. Im 22 years old and feel like I havent accomplished anything. Went to University for 2 years and now im off a year bc of academic probation and this is really getting to me. I work two jobs now to keep myself sane. On top of everything, I have stress at home. I have so much going on in my life that i can't think straight. My head hurts. I feel like running somewhere but don't know where. I've been lacking on my prayers, don't read Quran as much as I did when i was younger. I feel useless , dum, have no path, feel embarrased about school, and so many other things that i cant put in words. I just need to get something out right now and I did but this is nothing. I don't know why I made a membership here and why im writing all this. Im not looking for anyone to write me back or anything. I guess Im so confused right now and lost and have no guidance.
 
 
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Unresolved conflict can indeed be stressful.  Simply begin working on issues and situations that are easy to resolve and move to more difficult matters.  School requires study so organize your time more efficiently and better grades will follow.  Are you still living at home?  Why do you need to work two jobs?  Your education needs to be your primary concern.  Stress at home is usually solved by following the rules set down by your parents.  Take advantage of living freely while completing your education.  I know I've made major assumptions and generalizations, but hope it was helpful.  Salaams Mona, and all the best.
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Assalamu Alaikum Mona,

Sweetheart, you have accomplished something. You are a Muslim, on the right path and in Allah's grace. That is a wonderful thing. I, too have just joined today, and this is my first post, simply because your anguish cried out to me. I'm sure there are many more experienced people here who will give you good advice. But I will give you a small piece of my thoughts.

Amazingly, I have a son who is in a similar situation. He's 22 and on academic probation also after two years of college. I have talked and talked to him, so think of me as your mother, or just a sister in Islam.

When life gets so confusing, I know it feels like it is impossible to get your mind straight, so start with baby steps.

First, remember that Allah created you as a unique person. He loves you and will always be there no matter what is happening in your life. And your life is still ahead of you. Everything in your life happens for a reason, even if that reason isn't immediately clear to you. Just accept that this year out of school is the best thing for you.

Minimally, try to get your prayers back on track. First concentrate on your required prayers and keep them on time as much as possible. Remember Allah will help you, but you must reach out, too.

And Secondly, ask Allah to help you. The last third of night is a good time, but I know it can be overwhelming, so simply open your heart to your Lord, anytime and any place, and say, Ya Allah you know my problems better than anyone. Help me and guide me to the right path. Help yourself as much as possible, but always, always ask Allah to help with every small aspect of your life.

I will pray for you, as I know many people will.
Coming here is a good start. You will find that you are not alone.
Wa Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmat Allahi wa Barakatu.
Om Abdullah
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I am working two jobs because I am not in school this year. I also live at home. I do follow the rules and regulations in my home. My parents are amazing Alhamdulilah and I love them. I guess I don't know what to do with my time and seeing students going to school kind of makes me emotional. My education is my concern, but can't do anythng about it till next year.
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Originally posted by Mona Mona wrote:

I guess I don't know what to do with my time and seeing students going to school kind of makes me emotional. My education is my concern, but can't do anythng about it till next year.
 
How about online courses from another school with transferable credits while waiting for re-admittance?
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It's so hard. I get stressed easily and that's my problem. I yell a lot the moment i get angry. I've just gone through so much and partly my fault for choosing the wrong people to be around me. Even though that was so long ago, It bothers me a lot. I always question my self. I start something and never finish it. My dad is a scientist and I feel that I have disappointed him so much, but he still loves me and is always there for me. He doesn't understand what I am going through bc his always working and on the go and provides most for the family. My mother is not the type of person to talk to. I love her, but she's young and we can not have a mother daughter conversation at all . Trust me I have tried and I have learned to accept my mom for who she is even if I dont agree with things she does or things she believes. The past bothers me and I feel st**id and immature and its so hard to get over. I really have bad self esteem issues. I try to right down my goals and what i want to accomplish. The first are my prayers and always maintaining them which trust me I am better than before. Im so overwhelmed.

Thank you so much Om Abdullah for making me cry because I havent cryed in a while and I needed to .

Asalamu Alaykum
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I would do online but there are to many responsibilities that I have right now in my house that it's not possible, but I wil look into it anyways.
thank you for the advice
 
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waalikum salam!!

its not a problem...you thinking neg...about your life...stop do that... first you have to read  quran again...if you say you have no time... but i think you have..
 
check if you have 30 min...
 
take a walk or something i promice you be strong...
 
you can download quran in you phone or mp3 and listen....
 
when you do food.. clean your home...everywhere...
 
you only need 30 min.. to change...try... insha allah
 
take care... ps! sorry my bad english Wink/one sister from sweden
 
 
 
 
 
 
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