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   hi all 

i am seriously in need of some help!! i am married to a muslim man have been for 6 years now, we have had our ups and down like any couple, but on tuesday 7th july 09 we had a big fight and he has left the marital home. 

he has informed me he want a divorce but i am not prepared to let our 6 years go just like that.

i need to know how i can handle this we were married in Jordan not in the uk. 

i want a reconcilliation but he wont even answer his phone or text messages, please please help !

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gajab62 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 12 July 2009 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote gajab62 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: divorce Posted: 12 July 2009 at 8:10am
	hi all i am seriously in need of some help!! i am married to a muslim man have been for 6 years now, we have had our ups and down like any couple, but on tuesday 7th july 09 we had a big fight and he has left the marital home. he has informed me he want a divorce but i am not prepared to let our 6 years go just like that. i need to know how i can handle this we were married in Jordan not in the uk. i want a reconcilliation but he wont even answer his phone or text messages, please please help !

Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2009 at 5:26am
	Welcome to the Forum.. am sorry you are going through these struggles. 1. Give it a little time 2. Are you able to talk to any friends or family of his to let them know your intentions? At some point he will need to talk to you. I do say the worst is to go 'chasing' him. Let him know you want to continue and give hm a bit of space. Have patience...
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

gajab62 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 12 July 2009 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote gajab62 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2009 at 11:56am
	ty i really appreciate your post , i am beside my self i have spoken to one of his best friends out in jordan and i ahve spokent o one of his cousins and i managed to get hold of an immam at the hospital that i work at , he spoke to my husband for 1/2 hr and when he called me back he said ur husband has made up his mind , i will never give up hope even if he divorces me ..nothing is too big for God to deal with. althought mu husband says thats its Gods will for us to split up , i dont believe this at all!!

sophykhan Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 24 June 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 16	Post Options Post Reply Quote sophykhan Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2009 at 7:07pm
	??????assaam allykum is there a reason he left .if you need help send bac .like hayfa said give it some time dont worry

ikhwan Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Male Joined: 06 July 2009 Location: Pakistan Status: Offline Points: 9	Post Options Post Reply Quote ikhwan Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2009 at 11:31pm
	Asalamualikum, i would suggest sister that u find out the main reason for the rift and talk to family and friends, in islam divorce is not encouraged and is disliked by Allah. as said above give it some time, if the rift is solved he will inshAllah come to u, have faith in God Almighty Allah and pray to Him.

gajab62 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 12 July 2009 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote gajab62 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2009 at 11:35pm
	i have had a long e.mail from him, saying that he dosnt look at me as a wife anymore, but he wants to be friends! i guess there are many reasons , not all are clear to me , he says that he has an emptyness ..he misses his family, but now after 6 years he says he wants children , he knew 3 years b 4 we got married that there may be a chance that we wont wont be able to have any but he still wantred to marry me! he kept telling that its Gods willing if we have children and Gods willing if we dont , what ever God decides he will accept. i fear that when he went home it was the attacment to his niece that has made him feel like this. i believ he is very depressed but he shut the doors on me and would not talk, i thought it was just the stress of his study , but it seems far deeper than that! i just love him with all my heart and miss him like crazy. i have lost 5 kilo in a week, and i dont have it to lose! i feel i just want to die, he was my life. i appreciate all your support thanks u so much ! its good to have people who care :)

Akhe Abdullah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 19 November 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1252	Post Options Post Reply Quote Akhe Abdullah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2009 at 5:38am
	Propet Muhammed(SAW) says"The most hated of all permissible things in the sight of Allah is divorce."Abu Dawud no.2178 and Ibn Majah no.2018. Edited by Akhe Abdullah - 14 July 2009 at 5:42am

martha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 30 October 2007 Status: Offline Points: 1140	Post Options Post Reply Quote martha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2009 at 5:53am
	Salaams sister, This is very sad, but don't give up hope. Men sometimes lose sight of what marriage is all about. Try to get as much support from the sisters around you to help you through this and come to IC as often as you feel you are able. We are with you:)
	some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set