Help needed on sexual problem

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   Asslam-o-Alaikum.
I have a problem which I cannot discuss with my parents or siblings. Hence this post. I am 19-years old, and addicted to self-pleasure. I feel very guilty and sorry about this, I've tried to correct myself for the past 3 years but have failed. Can some brother please tell me what should I do to stop this habit? thank you.

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zarak1986 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 13 August 2005 Location: Pakistan Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote zarak1986 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Help needed on sexual problem Posted: 13 August 2005 at 3:47pm
	Asslam-o-Alaikum. I have a problem which I cannot discuss with my parents or siblings. Hence this post. I am 19-years old, and addicted to self-pleasure. I feel very guilty and sorry about this, I've tried to correct myself for the past 3 years but have failed. Can some brother please tell me what should I do to stop this habit? thank you. Edited by zarak1986

Israfil Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 08 September 2003 Status: Offline Points: 3984	Post Options Post Reply Quote Israfil Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 August 2005 at 7:56pm
	As'Salaamu Alaikum Zarak, Though I cannot justify your behavior which you have mention as a Muslim, but as a person as another guy to another I can understand. In actuality its quite normal. But Islamically it is prohibited. Actually brother there are forums here in which "masturbation" which is the self-pleasure I assumed you were referring to is considered a sin in Islam. There are ahadiths which refer to this but unfortunately there are no hadiths availabl where I'm at as I'm traveling right now. But, in accordance to some hadith it is said that when sexual desire is in the mind its best to do three things: 1) prayer 2) fast 3) Read Qur'an Perhpas the reasons for this, is the sexual desire to please oneself takes time away from pleasing God. In other words while you are pleasing yourself, that time could be best utilized by praying to God or reading Qur'an. But if you happen to keep on doing this I suggest praying to God and asking for his guidence. None of us really can tell you what to do. Ask God what to do and he will help you brother....May Allah guide you aright

interracial Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 23 August 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote interracial Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 24 August 2005 at 3:25am
	...And btw, masturbation is far better than sexual agression! If all child molesters would practice self-pleasure instead of attacking children, we would be in a better world. Masturbation may be haram, as it is illegal for a christian, but at my eyes, this is minor, and biologically, it's a natural need. Reginald Roy Montreal, Canada

DavidC Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Christian Joined: 20 September 2001 Location: Florida USA Status: Offline Points: 2474	Post Options Post Reply Quote DavidC Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 24 August 2005 at 6:12am
	Marriage. It will cure the urge for masturbation for about 7-9 years. It cures all desire for sex after that.
	Christian; Wesleyan M.Div.

Israfil Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 08 September 2003 Status: Offline Points: 3984	Post Options Post Reply Quote Israfil Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 24 August 2005 at 10:05am
	LOL Bro David that was funny......

firewall Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 06 November 2004 Location: Malaysia Status: Offline Points: 215	Post Options Post Reply Quote firewall Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 26 August 2005 at 7:04am
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Brother123 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 22 April 2005 Status: Offline Points: 84	Post Options Post Reply Quote Brother123 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 27 August 2005 at 5:31am
	im cracking up here David lol

jabedi Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 30 August 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 20	Post Options Post Reply Quote jabedi Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 August 2005 at 6:54pm
	An important thing is to make sure you are doing things. Do you have a job? involved in sports? join a youth group or other non profit organization? Keep yourself active. Next I would say you should start looking for a wife. These urges happen for a reason. Learn your Islam, get involved with the community, and i promise you will find a good woman. Temporarily, I would recommend self discipline. You need to get some control over yourself. The fact is that it is not common for someone to be in that much of a need to post this message in this forum. This is a problem if you are truthful. In the meantime take cold showers and think of other thoughts. Your brother, Jawad