angry wife

So the three of us, my wife, our two-year-old daughter, and I went out shopping for shoes for our little girl. And I noticed that my wife's mood darkened but I didn't know why. Then when we got home she made dinner for herself and sat down to eat it without saying anything to me. So I asked why she was doing that and what was going on because obviously she was angry and I didn't know why. About half an hour later she suddenly looks up at me and says you really don't know why I'm angry? And I said that I had already told her I didn't know why, at which point she said it was because I didn't make any money. She can't buy what she wants, I've talked about making money through a business but nothing has panned out, and so on. Mercifully, that was the end of it although since we've had this argument many times before it could've gone on for much longer.

Short of bringing in a six-figure income starting tomorrow, I don't know what to do about this situation. It isn't as though today for the first time she suddenly realized we don't have all the money we want and need. And in point of fact we're doing much better now than we have in the last three years. We both have steady jobs now and our income has lifted us out of qualifying for food stamps and related assistance.

Nevertheless, this anger and resentment about our finances bubbles up more or less continuously, at least twice a month. I don't know how to get her to relax and be happy with what we have, even even as I continue to strive for more. I don't know how to get her to have faith in my entrepreneurial efforts and be supportive of them and interested in them. And I don't know how to get her to stop being so angry. By the way, we did go to couples therapy maybe a year ago, at my insistence, and the first thing she did in our first therapy session was unload about our finances, crying as she did so.

Part of the problem is that what we have is not what she expected when we got married. The recession has not been kind to us. I don't want a divorce but I don't want things to stay the way they are, either. So I'm hoping some of you can help me figure something out.

Shokran

Get her to read this story -

"When Queens Ride By" by

http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/artman/publish/Biblical_Womanhood_and_Christian_Living_14/When_Queens_Ride_By_9510095.shtml

I think I would suggest for the husband to pray for his wife to find the peace she needs, and as another said, simply show his compassion for their situation.  I know it must be hard on his ego, but perhaps God is testing him.  I could also recommend the movie Fireproof to show how one spouse's attitude can change the attitude of the other.  I wish I had known how to have a better attitude in my marriage.  The change often begins with ourselves.  It can take great patience and fortitude, but isn't this how God grows us into the people worthy of His kingdom?

Salaam to all.


Edited by Caringheart - 27 June 2013 at 2:17pm

You should talk to your wife. Meditation will work but you have to do something from your side. Ask her what she want and go somewhere in week or month to make her mind fresh. Some time lots of work and pressure make ladies such type. You should invest more time with her and make control on yourself. I know divorce is not solution of this problem, you have a child and discuss with her about your child future. Only your love and care can change her mood and after few month she will be normal.