My Mother and Me

Salaam ALikum,

 I am a muslim, alhumdila, and have been for 3 years, though i am only 17. My mother is a non-muslim, and so is the rest of my family.

But i need advise, I get so mad at my mother all the time. Allah says to be pactice, to be kind with your words, angar is a bad thing. But o my god, she can insult me, and hurt me so bad. She calls me selfish, a brat...most mothers do this i'm sure. But she never speaks nicly to me, she blames me for my stepfather treating me like drit (I met my stepfather when i was 9 years old,My mother says i used curse him?! so he treats me very badly) Whenever she comes home she yells at me, she takes all her angar of that day out on me. She tells me to put the phone back when i'm done, I tell her that she never puts it back....so i watch her for a month with the phone, she never puts it back!

 My mother and stepfather get mad at eachother at lot now, They yell at eachtother and say things like "We are not ever partnes anymore." They dont love eachother I guess. My mother lies to her family, she always says how wonderful my stepfahter is, how helpful he is ( and he is) but hes selfish, he takes 4 to 5 hours getting ready, always is sacrstic when he talking to me (me and my mother have talked about his behavoir towards me, and we BOTH agreed it was awful, and that he will treat his 3 year old son the same.) My mother and stepfather might get divorced...my mothers 2nd divore.

 Sisters, I know my mother should be well respected,loved. I do love my mother, but its so hard when shes always insulting....

 I really have to go, more later Insha' Allah....Sorry for not finishing, but i really needed to say all that!

 Salaam,

 Aisha

Bismillah,

Salaams and Ramadan Mubarik to you Sister Aisha!  I suggest that you put the phone back every time anyway.  And if there are one or two other small things that annoy your mom, try very hard not to do them.  Leaving shoes in the wrong place or the toothpaste cap off or the dish unrinsed are easy things, as examples because I don't know what things bother her that you do exactly.  Allah, SWT, will bless you for showing these small kindnesses to your mom, ISA.

And definitely follows Sister Henna's advice and walk away quietly before an arguement starts and make woodoo.