justice between man and woman.

Wa�'alaykum Salaam Mihs,

The ayat that contains the information about polygamy states in surah An-Nisa(4:3) With respect to marrying widows, if you are afraid of not being able to maintain justice with her children, marry another woman of your choice or two or three or four (who have no children).

So for this I would like to give you this link it is very refreshing and eye opening.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/altmuslim/2012/09/why-is-polygamy-allowed-in-islam-how-is-it-best-practiced/


I do have one comment about polygamy, there are rules must be followed, It is the husbands responsibility to provide for all of the wives. Not haphazardly provide for one and give the others the leftovers. If you decide to join in a polygamist marriage, you must learn what your rights are, and then demand them period.

Now for the slave thing, well you know in this day and age we don't have them legally anyway. If a "man" has a slave, well he isn't a practicing Muslim. Meaning, as a Muslim who is following the rules of Islam, should be a person who also follows the rules of law in the country where they reside.

I know I am in the USA and not in country that is run culturally by a patriarchal hierarchy. You must take control learn what the differences are between Islamic law & patriarchal rule of law. Note: Patriarchal rule of law is often disguised as Islamic law. And that is simply not true, in Islam men and women are equal period. We have different roles and responsibilities; however, we are equal in the site of Allah period.

You must take control of your life, harness your ability to ask question and read, not just the Qur�an unless you are an Arab, the definition of an Arab is someone who if fluent Arabic, meaning reading and understanding what is read in Arabic not a translation. �

The reason I gave you this definition is your comment �In all Quranic verses and sunnah, the word men is used.�

The Arabic language and the grammar rules state all nouns and adjectives in Arabic must indicate gender (feminine or masculine) whether they refer to animate or inanimate objects. Note: that if a speaker is in a room full of women the conversation will remain entirely feminine with grammar rules. However, if one man enters the room, the grammar rules state that the context of the conversation is to switch to masculine. Meaning that women are included in the text of the Qur�an. �

Stop being afraid of going to hell, you must learn your religion and even the laws of your country. To learn and understand what your rights and responsibilities are. You can control what you want to interpret, but don�t just let life passively go by. Own it and be grateful that Allah gave you a brain to reason with.

Take care and I do hope your Ramadan is going will may Allah accept. I also would like to wish you a happy pre-Eid Mubarak. �