Married to an amazing person but unhappy and depre

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   Assalam alaikum Everyone,

Please bear with my as I will be writing a long post.

I have been married to my husband for 2 months and he is an amazing person but I am still not happy. He loves me, cares about me, and anything that a good muslim husband should be but I am still not satisfied. I was very depressed before meeting him. I was depressed for 3 long years because I was in a relationship with a guy who turn out to be a cheater, liar, drinker, and whatnot. I still regret it cuz it was a haram relationship but I did not do anything haram with him (only held hands which I know I shouldn't have and I still regret it). Anyway, back to my husband; Everything about him is great but I don't love him the way he loves me. Maybe I don't like the fact that all of his brothers are so educated and successful and make much more money than him. Maybe the fact that he is not witty enough. maybe the fact that he doesn't have friends and is kind of a loser because of his work schedule. Please guys don't hate on me but I can't keep it inside anymore. It's killing me inside. Is it the same old depression that's haunting me? I feel like killing myself. I wish I did not marry him. I can't break off this marriage either because I am Desi and my parents and brothers will disown me :( I am so depressed these days and there are times when I misbehave with him but he is still so nice to me and it makes me feel really guilty. I even went through counselling sessions but it did not help me at all so I stopped going. please sisters and brothers, help me.

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mona09 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 15 May 2015 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote mona09 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Married to an amazing person but unhappy and depre Posted: 15 May 2015 at 1:29pm
	Assalam alaikum Everyone, Please bear with my as I will be writing a long post. I have been married to my husband for 2 months and he is an amazing person but I am still not happy. He loves me, cares about me, and anything that a good muslim husband should be but I am still not satisfied. I was very depressed before meeting him. I was depressed for 3 long years because I was in a relationship with a guy who turn out to be a cheater, liar, drinker, and whatnot. I still regret it cuz it was a haram relationship but I did not do anything haram with him (only held hands which I know I shouldn't have and I still regret it). Anyway, back to my husband; Everything about him is great but I don't love him the way he loves me. Maybe I don't like the fact that all of his brothers are so educated and successful and make much more money than him. Maybe the fact that he is not witty enough. maybe the fact that he doesn't have friends and is kind of a loser because of his work schedule. Please guys don't hate on me but I can't keep it inside anymore. It's killing me inside. Is it the same old depression that's haunting me? I feel like killing myself. I wish I did not marry him. I can't break off this marriage either because I am Desi and my parents and brothers will disown me :( I am so depressed these days and there are times when I misbehave with him but he is still so nice to me and it makes me feel really guilty. I even went through counselling sessions but it did not help me at all so I stopped going. please sisters and brothers, help me.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 May 2015 at 5:33am
	What type of counseling were you going through? Please discuss your bouts of depression with your doctor.

Caringheart Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 02 March 2012 Status: Offline Points: 2991	Post Options Post Reply Quote Caringheart Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 May 2015 at 11:40am
	Greetings Mona, I agree with abuayisha. I have much sympathy for you and hope you will find answers. I will pray for you. asalaam and blessings, Caringheart
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