Salat al-istikhara

Asalamu Alaikum

Well I am engaged and recently I have become confused and I am not sure if he is the right one for me, so I prayed salat al-istikhara. I had a dream my uncle was talking to someone on the phone he said, "Are you sure you want to end the engagement?" He kept repeating that in a stern voice. I was also there watching him. I started to cry. But I am not sure if he was talking to my fiance. Then my grandma said she wanted to call my fiance. That's it. Does anyone know who I would ask to have my dream interpreted?

Thanks

Dear sister Ahlam

This is what I would do.

First of, please pray to Allah to make the interpretation of the dream a good one. This is what a muslim does when the dream is confusing or scary. InshaAllah I am praying that this dream brings about good for you.

Next, Please do not tell about your dream to anyone. The dream should be told only to a trusted person who has only your good at heart and/or to a sheikh for its meaning and implication.

Third, repeat the Salatul Istikhaara. One two or three times. If possible you can say the dua of istikhaara after every prayer even.

A similar question was asked on islam-qa.com, I admire this sheikhs opinions, I am posting his answer and the link here.

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Question:
How can I benefit properly from istikhaarah? 
After I prayed istikhaarah after someone came to propose marriage to me, I dreamt that the sister of the suitor was dressing me in a green suit and was telling me that her brother would not give anything but whatever was beautiful. I hope that you can tell me the meaning of this dream so that I can be sure whether I did istikhaarah right.

Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.

There are a number of things that should be noted: 

Firstly: 

With regard to the dream that you have seen, you should ask people who have knowledge of that, whose religious commitment and �aqeedah you trust, so that they may explain its meaning to you. Beware of ignorant people and charlatans. 

Secondly: 

Many people think that following istikhaarah there has to be a dream or a feeling of ease in the heart, and so on, but that is not the case. Even if no such thing happens when a person has prayed istikhaarah and done his best to find out what is best for him, such as consulting people, examining the issue and asking those who have experience, then he goes ahead and does it, then it is hoped that this will be what is best for him, even if he does not feel at ease in his heart in the beginning. Even if we assume that he does not succeed in this matter that he goes ahead with after praying istikhaarah, it may be good for him even if he does not know it, but his Lord knows, may He be exalted. 

Ibn al-Haaj al-Maaliki said: 

Some of them pray istikhaarah as prescribed in sharee�ah and then wait until they see a dream from which they will decide whether they should go ahead and do whatever they prayed istikhaarah about or not, or until someone else sees a dream for them. This does not count for anything, because the infallible one (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us to pray istikhaarah and consult others, not to rely on what is seen in dreams. End quote 

Al-Madkhal, 4/37 

Thirdly: 

If we assume that the interpretation of the dream suggests something good, good dreams are no more than hints, but they cannot be relied on. Rather you should try to find out and ask about the one who has proposed marriage, make sure whether he is religiously committed and of good character, and other things that you should find out about him. If you are certain of these matters then the good dream is no more than a message to be of good cheer when proceeding.  

We ask Allaah to make goodness easy for you, and to bless you. 

And Allaah knows best.
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Hope this helps you, you can also go to islam-qa.com and search for istikhaara or dreams.

-Najamsahar

Sister Ahlam,Assalam aleikum...

All these above are true according to islam.I wish to add that when u perform Isti-khaara,U not necessarily hav to dream.Allah SW is the All knower.It can happen that u see to find some1  u were engaged to just distant themselves from u,if they were not of good to u.

Once i did Isti-khaara on this man who wanted to marry me.I later dreamt about a man(it wasnt him frm my dream) talk abt the same business the man who wanted to marry me was engaged.When i woke up i checked the time only to see it was 5am in the morning.Real dreams are said to happen btw 2-3am.The other times,its the shaitan playing tricks on u.Since i wasnt sure abt it,i stil cont to pray istikhaara.Later,i found that the guy started distancing himself from me.Eventually we parted ways,i dont know how til now.But we never argued.God works in miraculous ways.

So never expect dreams...just expect outcomes.

Dear aasiya,

If you scroll a bit on this string you will find a post from me where I have posted links for istekhara prayer. Click on those and you can learn the procedure.

Though I would not know your situation, however as a genaral rule, one must not choose a person for marriage who s/he does not want to marry. That can be a very tough circumstance to deal with in future, and for the rest of ones life. 

Another thing is that a woman should choose a man of taqwa, and that is the best choice for marriage. If your future spouse's adherence to religion is way less than yours, that can again be a very difficult situation for you to live in.

Therfore, chose with care. It is not wrong to say no to your parents, if you do not want a husband of their chosing. Islamically you have a right to choose, so you can be a little bold about it.

Insha allah khair