I have initaited a divorce...Am I a bad person?

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   I have moved out of the family home 3 months ago. I could put up with it any mopre being belittle and no respect. (can't go into details right now). I have files for a Khula and divorce in court, after tried to improve the situation for over 4 yaers. Though I dont regret it at all. I feel like a bad person for not being able to make my marriage work. I have 2 kids. I feel people with judge me for the rest of my life. I feel I am mourning the loss of a dream to have a happy marriage. I am aklso feeling scared at the tjought of being alone for the rest iof my Life. I have my kids and my parents nsupport. But one days, they may not be here. and I will be alone. 

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1234muslima Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 11 August 2014 Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote 1234muslima Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: I have initaited a divorce...Am I a bad person? Posted: 11 August 2014 at 3:14am
	I have moved out of the family home 3 months ago. I could put up with it any mopre being belittle and no respect. (can't go into details right now). I have files for a Khula and divorce in court, after tried to improve the situation for over 4 yaers. Though I dont regret it at all. I feel like a bad person for not being able to make my marriage work. I have 2 kids. I feel people with judge me for the rest of my life. I feel I am mourning the loss of a dream to have a happy marriage. I am aklso feeling scared at the tjought of being alone for the rest iof my Life. I have my kids and my parents nsupport. But one days, they may not be here. and I will be alone.

Abu Loren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 29 June 2012 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 1646	Post Options Post Reply Quote Abu Loren Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 August 2014 at 5:15am
	Stop being silly! Divorce is a Mercy from Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala for people exactly like you. Nobody should suffer n silence and in Islam women CAN initiate the divorce proceedings. Narrated Ibn `Abbas: The wife of Thabit bin Qais bin Shammas came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I do not blame Thabit for any defects in his character or his religion, but I am afraid that I (being a Muslim) may become unthankful for Allah's Blessings." On that, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said (to her), 'Will you return his garden to him?" She said, "Yes." So she returned his garden to him and the Prophet (ﷺ) told him to divorce her. Reference Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5276 In-book reference : Book 68, Hadith 25
	La Ilaha IllAllah

Kaleemah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 07 August 2014 Location: Australia Status: Offline Points: 5	Post Options Post Reply Quote Kaleemah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 August 2014 at 6:28pm
	Salaam alaikum sister. No you are not a bad person. Like Abu Loren said Divorce is a Mercy from Allah SWT! I can relate. I have been struggling in a rocky marriage since my daughter was born. I am making dua and praying to Allah SWT for guidance in what to do next. One minute it's divorce, next it's we're staying together. This is not what I want for our children. He has been violent towards me in the past. Alhumdulillah there has not been violence for a few months. You can contact me if you feel like you need to talk to someone. Salaam sister. Remember Allah does not burden with us with what we can't handle. And we are tested again and again. Make dua and remember Allah is always ready to grant you mercy and compassion. Sometimes it seems it will never happen, but Allah SWT always knows best.