Marital woes - In a dilemma

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   Al-Raheem, may I offer a suggestion?  Ask your wife and her parents how much they would pay to have peace, friendship and a harmonious relationship with the rest of your family.  Would it be worth $20,000?  Especially if wasn't even their money?
I agree, it's a terrible waste; but after all, you did promise, and I think your parents are being very generous by not expecting your in-laws to contribute a dime towards it.  (Or perhaps they wouldn't be expected to pay anyway.  I'm not sure how it works in your culture.)
Your parents want to have a party in your honour.  They're proud of you and they want to show you off to their friends.  It's a lavish compliment -- far too lavish, in fact, but try to accept it in the spirit in which it is offered.

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Ron Webb Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male atheist Joined: 30 January 2008 Location: Ottawa, Canada Status: Offline Points: 2467	Post Options Post Reply Quote Ron Webb Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 19 October 2012 at 5:49pm
	Al-Raheem, may I offer a suggestion? Ask your wife and her parents how much they would pay to have peace, friendship and a harmonious relationship with the rest of your family. Would it be worth $20,000? Especially if wasn't even their money? I agree, it's a terrible waste; but after all, you did promise, and I think your parents are being very generous by not expecting your in-laws to contribute a dime towards it. (Or perhaps they wouldn't be expected to pay anyway. I'm not sure how it works in your culture.) Your parents want to have a party in your honour. They're proud of you and they want to show you off to their friends. It's a lavish compliment -- far too lavish, in fact, but try to accept it in the spirit in which it is offered.
	Addeenul �Aql � Religion is intellect.

Al-Raheem Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Joined: 14 September 2012 Location: Singapore Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote Al-Raheem Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 October 2012 at 9:17am
	Thank you all for your valuable responses. Alhamdulillah the matter has been resolved amicably.

Caringheart Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 02 March 2012 Status: Offline Points: 2991	Post Options Post Reply Quote Caringheart Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 23 October 2012 at 7:24pm
	Very happy to hear.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 24 October 2012 at 7:46am
	Great, resolved amicably. Gosh, can you be just a little more specific? C'mon man, don't just leave us hanging here....what happened?