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    Posted: 05 June 2012 at 8:08pm
Excellent advice. Thumbs%20Up
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i stoped all contacts with him so far it's not been easy to me but i am doing well...sometimes he sms in my phone but i do not reply..he tried to contact our mutual friend who lives in same country and city asking about me but i told her to tell him that i was back to ship working and that she didnt know the name of the ship i was working..thats it for while i am trying to focus in my study and my work and inshALLAH everything will be fine...

If only I had read your comment before I married my husband more than 8 yrs ago. It's been stress,stress,stress since we got married..and now,I am too old and too tired to change anything.

I am sorry for u sis May Allah help u ...
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Quote If only I had read your comment before I married my husband more than 8 yrs ago. It's been stress,stress,stress since we got married..and now,I am too old and too tired to change anything.Cry


Salam Alaikum Sister!

May Allah ease your circumstances. Never despair from Allah's mercy and blessings. Make dua to Him to improve your situation.

Even if you feel you don't have the energy to change anything, try and regain happiness within your current circumstances. I hope you have family and friends around you who can help. Do things that make you happy and reduce stress. May Allah bless you...
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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Originally posted by laylak laylak wrote:

well thx for the advices and ill surely think about it...i cant talk to his iman coz we r in diferent countries and i didnt have any illegal relationship with him while we worked in the same place we just used to talk and make plans for the future..i am trying to get hide from him but hes always sending me msgs..anyways ALLAH will help me to take him out of my heart inshALLAH
thx once more
Always sending you messages? Delete your email or block him.
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Sabir, wa alaikum salaam, and welcome!  Please be less worried about "upsetness" and concentrate more on clarity.  What is your concept of "professional advice"?  I think a slippery slope exists when suggesting that one can acquire "professional advice" from an Imam or scholar.  I know well known scholars who advise 'the best of men are those who have the most wives', as well as Imams who are in agreement.  They will tell a woman it is her religious duty to allow her husband to take on additional wives as if it were a religious obligation.  Professional and qualified are simply not synonymous with "Imam" and especially in the West.  Lastly, I think often it is equally problematic, with respect to emotional difficulties, when we do not give sound and clear advice when asked. At the end of the day people will do as they like anyway.  We are only giving an opinion and not a religious fatwa. Please continue to express your concerns this makes our forum enjoyable.
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