can love overcome all these cultural differences -

Linnea wrote: Dear Honeto, Thank you so much for your reply! Reading your story helped me quite a lot because it showed me that it can work. And I'm really happy for you and your wife - I hope you'll always be happy together. I've started learning about Islam long before I met him. And he encourages me to learn more about Islam and told me that he hopes that I'll become a Muslim one day. I really like what I've read about Islam so far but converting is a big decision. I would never convert to Islam just because of him. I'd only do it if I was convinced that it's the truth and so far I have to learn much more about it to make such a decision. I remember when we were talking about children, he told me that our children have to be Muslims and I accepted it. So far we get along together extremely well and we really love each other. We planned to marry next year but recently it seems that we both worry about our future together. I feel that he became somehow insecure. That's why I started this topic. Today he told me that he doesn't want me to regret it one day. That he's different than the Europeans. That he doesn't want to experience the day when I say that I can't stand it anymore. I told him that I love him for who he is. I love that he's religious. That he has values. I love him for his great personality. I wouldn't change him. But all his worries made me worry if I can make him happy. Although I'm not the "typical" European girl (if you can say it like that). No ex-boyfriends, no parties, no male friends...but I'm also not like a woman from his culture. Can he be happy with me? I feel like he would be happier with a woman from his culture... I truly love him and want him to be happy...and I'm afraid of losing him I feel like there's a thunder storm in my head.

Salam Linnea,
I am glad what I wrote was of help to you. I am impressed with your approach toward this biggest step of your life with wisdom, sincerity and maturity. Difficulties and challenges are part of any major step in life, you have to deal with them and make your judgments based on your observations and past experiences.
True, never become Muslim for him or to marry him, rather for yourself. Keep the positive spirit, hope and pray to God Almighty to help you and guide you. And again remember to take your precautions and always foresee and be ready for what comes along the way. A true believer never breakdown when experience test and trials of this life. But don't forget to be cheerful and enjoy what God has provided for you lawfully.
Best wished,
Hasan

Edited by honeto - 01 January 2014 at 1:55pm

Dear Abu Loren,

Yes, I consider him a good muslim.
This year during Ramadan, for example, we read surahs (or parts of a surah) together each evening and when I had questions about it, he explained it to me very well.

I really like that he is that religious. I wouldn't want to change this. And I'm religious, too. I believe in God, I pray every day, try to be a good person and avoid bad things...(but of course this doesn't always work - I'm just human after all).

I'm sure there would be some kind of culture clash...maybe such a culture clash would be our challenge whereas other couples face other challenges/problems in their marriage. No marriage is problem-free...

I can't deny that I'm worried about such possible culture clashes...but after long weeks of thinking and analysing I came to the conclusion that I really want to spend my life with him even if it includes some compromises.

He said that he prayed Istikhara. He was as confused/worried as I was but today he told me that he can't imagine his life without me. We really love each other.

I really hope it'll work...inshallah

Islam encourage serious relations like marriage

There are many people got married to christian

And they marriage survive

No one know what will happen in future


in islam shaking women hand consider as sin

And he brought his cousin because

Islam permit men to sit with women


You overwhelmed with islam

� there is solution ask him to pray
Estekhara. صلاة استخارة

No one will regret on his decision
If he pray estekhara



Be sure islam is truth path

Jesus confirm he is prophet in bible :

Jesus peace be upon him said :

Luke 13:31

33�But I must go on my way today, tomorrow, and the next day. A prophet of God cannot be killed outside of Jerusalem.


http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke 13:31-35


� jesus is prophet confirmed bible :

Matthew 21:11 The crowds answered, "This is Jesus, the prophet ...


� name prophet muhammad in bible ve torah

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wm3sZfPwv1g










Edited by truthfull - 10 May 2014 at 1:41pm