Am I in the wrong here?

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   I have been dating this girl I want to marry for the past 4 years. We are both believing muslims. So heres when the problem comes to play, every year I take a trip with my friends(all muslim guys) to like LA. We stay in my best freinds sisters house, who is married and has a kid and also are muslims. My girlfriend doesnt approve of it because I have never been on a trip with her, and also because there would be a woman in the house that I would be staying in. I havnt been on a trip with her because, ofcourse my parents woudnt approve, and you know how arab parents are. My parents are fine with me going with my friends. I tell her once we get our nikah done we will go wherever we want. But thats not good enough for her and she says if I go well be done. Am I wrong if I go or is she wrong for doing that? I look forward to your answers inshallah.

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raiders Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Joined: 12 June 2016 Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote raiders Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Am I in the wrong here? Posted: 12 June 2016 at 2:51pm
	I have been dating this girl I want to marry for the past 4 years. We are both believing muslims. So heres when the problem comes to play, every year I take a trip with my friends(all muslim guys) to like LA. We stay in my best freinds sisters house, who is married and has a kid and also are muslims. My girlfriend doesnt approve of it because I have never been on a trip with her, and also because there would be a woman in the house that I would be staying in. I havnt been on a trip with her because, ofcourse my parents woudnt approve, and you know how arab parents are. My parents are fine with me going with my friends. I tell her once we get our nikah done we will go wherever we want. But thats not good enough for her and she says if I go well be done. Am I wrong if I go or is she wrong for doing that? I look forward to your answers inshallah.

fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 June 2016 at 7:09pm
	Assalam Alaikum, First of all, it is Haram to date a girl before marraige. and it is more haram if you go on a journey. a woman is not allowed to travel with a non mahram. So let her know this. IF she does not understand, then this could be an alarm from Allah to get rid of this relation. My personal opinion is that there should be no threatening in a relationship.