Women in Islam

Assalamu Alaikum

Sister Herjihad, although Brother Community didn't answer you, it is clear from his other posts that he doesn't believe in seeking "Tafsir of Qur'an" because he doesn't believe in turning to scholars in seeking knowledge of the Holy Qur'an.  He believes all one needs is the Holy Qur'an because Allah made all things clear to us through the  Holy Qur'an.

Brother Community, what English translation of the Holy Qur'an do you use?  I use Yusuf Ali's translation and it doesn't not say "a recommendation" as can be seen below.

"In what your wives leave your share is a half if they leave no child; but if they leave a child ye get a fourth; after payment of legacies and debts. In what ye leave their share is a fourth if ye leave no child; but if ye leave a child they get an eighth; after payment of legacies and debts. If the man or woman whose inheritance is in question has left neither ascendants nor descendants but has left a brother or a sister each one of the two gets a sixth; but if more than two they share in a third; after payment of legacies and debts; so that no loss is caused (to anyone). Thus is it ordained by Allah and Allah is All-Knowing Most Forbearing." (Sura 4, Ayat 12)

Daryabadi's translation say "an ordinance", Muhsin Khan's translation says "a Commandament" and Pickthall's translation says "A commandment".  So, it appears that it is  not a recommendation but rather a law that it be done so.  One should be very careful as to the English translation of the Holy Qur'an he/she uses.  Some are tainted.  That is why I had mine send to me from the Middle East intead of getting one here in the states.  At the very least, you should consider using an on-line sight where you can see what other English translations of the Holy Qur'an say.  I use the following link which has all four of the English translations I have mentioned here.  Maybe you will find it useful in answering some of your questions. 

http://www.parexcellence.co.za/islam/quraan.asp

Allah Hafiz

Sister Khadija

Those are the limits of Allah,those who obey Allah and His Messenger will be admitted to Gardens with rivers flowing beneath, to abide therein (for ever) and that will be the supreme achievement."

Hudoodu Allah, the limits of Allah.

Limits are set to make sure justice is done, it does not however mean that one can not increase in the matters of justice and good, rather it only means no one is allowed to practice anything under those limits because that would mean no other then injustice.

So basically speed on in the way of good and justice and make sure that no one transgresses the right of others by going under those limits. As for those who surpass the limits of Allah and do not go under it they are free from blame, it is rather those who go under it you should worry about. As for those who stick right at the limit and do not go over it or under it, these are free from blame also but i recommend them to better.

And not do We send the sent ones but as bringers of glad tidings (good news) and as warners: so whoever secures himself with faith and mends (their lives),- no fear is over them, nor do they(themselves) grief. [6:48]