Asslamu Alaikum
Q:) I have seen
certain Muslims keeping close ties and friendship with non-Muslims. I
was wondering, what is the Islamic perspective on Muslim- non-Muslim
relationship?
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most
Merciful,
Islam is a religion of mercy, tolerance and moderation. It teaches its
followers to be moderate in all fields and walks of life, in aspects of
worship, in dealing with others and in interaction with members of other
faiths. Being extreme in one way or another would entail going against
the pristine teachings of Allah Most High and His beloved Messenger
(Allah bless him & give him peace).
If one was to look at the various texts of the Qur�an and Sunnah with
regards to interaction and communication with non-Muslims, this aspect
(of moderation) would become even more manifest and clear. On one hand,
Islam commands us not to love and befriend non-Muslims, whilst many
other texts and the practices of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him
& give him peace) and his companions (Allah be pleased with them)
indicate that one should treat non-Muslims in the most respectful and
amicable of ways.
Unfortunately, those who do not have a deep understanding of Islam seem
to think there is a contradiction in the teachings of Islam with regards
to how one�s behaviour should be towards non-Muslims. They see the
various texts of the Qur�an and Sunnah admonishing those who have close
relationship and friendship with non-Muslims, whilst other texts seem to
indicate that having good ties with non-Muslims is permitted and
encouraged. Similarly, some non-Muslims point fingers at Islam and its
followers that Islam teaches hatred, violence and revulsion against
non-Muslims.
However, with the above explanation, it becomes clear that both these
understandings are way off the mark. There is no contradiction in the
teachings of Islam; neither does Islam teach its followers to have
hatred for fellow human beings even if they be from another faith. The
reality is that Islam teaches moderation. It allows Muslims to have a
good relationship with non-Muslims but to a certain limit. This becomes
clearer by looking at the various texts of the Qur�an and the practices
of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and his
companions.
There are many verses of the Qur�an that prohibit one from having close
and intimate relationship with non-Muslims, for example:
1) Allah Most High says in the Qur�an:
�Let not the believers (Muslims) take for friends Unbelievers
(non-Muslims) rather than believers. And whoever does that has no
relation with Allah whatsoever, except by way of precaution that you may
guard yourselves from them.� (Surah Ali Imran, V: 28)
Imam Abu Bakr al-Jassas (Allah have mercy on him) states in the
explanation of this verse:
�The statement of Allah [except by way of precaution that you may guard
yourselves from them] means, if you fear for your life or limbs of your
body from them, then you may save yourselves from them by expressing
friendship with disbelievers without it being from the heart�..This is
the opinion of the majority of scholars.� (Ahkam al-Qur�an, 2/289)
2) Allah Most High says:
�O you who believe! Take not my enemies and yours as friends offering
them (your) love�� (Surah al-Mumtahina, V: 1)
Imam Abu Bakr al-Jassas (Allah have mercy on him) states that this verse
was revealed regarding the Companion Hatib ibn Abi Balta�a (Allah be
pleased with him) who wrote to the non-believers of Quraysh giving them
guidelines (with regards to their safety and other such matters). He did
so, as he feared for his wealth and children that he had left behind in
Makka�� (Ahkam al-Qur�an, 5/325)
3) And:
�O you who believe! Take not into your intimacy those outside your
ranks: They will not fail to corrupt you�. (Surah Ali Imran, V: 118)
4) And:
�O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as friends.
They are but friends to each other. And he amongst you that turns to
them (for friendship) is of them.� (Surah al-Ma�idah, V: 51)
Imam Ibn Kathir (Allah have mercy on him) states in the commentary of
this verse:
�Allah Most High prohibits (in this verse) his believing servants from
having close friendship and intimacy with the Jews and Christians �
those who are enemies of Islam and its people�� (Tasir Ibn Kathir, 2/94)
5) And:
�You shall not find any people who believe in Allah and the Last Day,
loving those who resist Allah and His Messenger, even though they were
their fathers or their sons, or their brothers, or their kindred.� (Surah
al-Mujadala, V: 22)
The above few verses of the Qur�an indicate that it is unlawful to have
close friendship and intimacy (muwalat) with non-Muslims, even if they
were related to one. However, many other texts of the Qur�an and Sunnah,
the action and practice of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him &
give him peace), his companion�s treatment of non-Muslims all indicate
that one should treat non-Muslims with sympathy, generosity, compassion
and concern.
1) Allah Most High says:
�Allah forbids you not, with regards to those who fight you not for
(your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and
justly with them: for Allah loves those who are just.� (Surah al-Mumtahina,
V: 8)
2) And:
�O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah, as witnesses to fair
dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to
wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to piety: and fear
Allah. For Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.� (Surah
al-Ma�idah, V: 8)
In the above two verses, Allah Most High commands us to treat
non-Muslims justly and honourably. The dislike of their beliefs should
not prompt a Muslim to treat them unfairly.
The beloved Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), who
was sent as a mercy for the whole of mankind, demonstrated such
kindness, compassion, generosity and politeness towards non-Muslims that
it is difficult to find similar examples in history.
When Makka al-Mukarrama was in the grip of famine, he personally went
out to help his enemies who had made him leave his home town. At the
conquest of Makka, all his enemies came under his power and control, yet
he set them all free saying that not only are you being given amnesty
today but rather you are also forgiven for what you have done in the
past. When non-Muslim prisoners of war were presented before him, he
treated them with such kindness and tenderness as one would treat his
own children. His enemies inflicted upon him all sorts of injuries and
pain but he never raised his hand in revenge neither did he wish ill for
them, rather he would pray for their guidance. A delegation from the
tribe of Banu Thaqifa (who had yet not accepted Islam) came to visit
him, and was given the honour of staying in the Mosque of the Prophet, a
place regarded by Muslims to be the most sacred of places. (See: Ma�arif
al-Qur�an, 2/51)
There are many more such examples in the life of the Messenger of Allah
(Allah bless him & give him peace). The episode of Ta�if, the treaty of
Hudaybiyya and many other such events quite categorically demonstrate
the viewpoint of Islam with regards to treating and dealing with
non-Muslims.
Likewise, the Companions (sahaba) of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless
him & give him peace) also treated non-Muslims with tenderness and
kindness. They gave them their just rights and did not oppress them in
any way.
Thus, we see that Islam forbids its followers from being very intimate
with non-Muslims, but at the same time, it does not prevent one from
treating them in a tender and generous manner. Based on the
above-mentioned two kinds of examples found in Islamic literature, the
scholars and jurists have categorized friendship with non-Muslims into
four level and stages:
1) Muwalat or Mawadda: This means to have close and intimate
relationship and deep love and affection from one�s heart.
This kind of relationship is reserved only for Muslims; hence it will
not be permitted for a Muslim to have this type of friendship with
non-Muslims. The verses of the Qur�an prohibiting Muslims from having
intimate and close friendship with non-Muslims, especially the first
verse of Surah al-Mumtahina, is regarding this kind of relationship.
2) Mudarat: This means to express friendship and love only outwardly
without having love for them and their beliefs internally. It is a mere
outward expression of the first stage (muwalat), hence it entails being
pleasant, friendly, polite and kind towards non-Muslims. It involves
expressing good manners, courtesy and good behaviour towards fellow
human beings.
This kind of relationship with non-Muslims is permitted, as it is
reserved for all human beings, whether Muslim or non-Muslim. This
becomes even more important when the objective is to safeguard one�s
self from potential harm, invite them towards Islam or when they are
one�s guests. The verse of the Qur�an where Allah says �except by way of
precaution that you may guard yourselves from them� refers to this type
of relationship. However, if one fears corrupting his religious values,
then this type of friendship will not be permitted with non-Muslims.
3) Muwasat: This means to help, assist and benefit non-Muslims. It
includes charitable help and support, condolences and consolations, and
removing harm, such as giving water to a thirsty non-Muslim or food to
someone who is hungry.
This is also permitted with all types of non-Muslims except those who
are directly at war with Muslims. The verse of the Qur�an where Allah
Most High says: �Allah forbids you not, with regards to those who fight
you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing
kindly and justly with them: for Allah loves those who are just� refers
to this kind of relationship with non-Muslims.
4) Mu�amalat: This means to deal, transact and trade with non-Muslims.
This is also permitted with all non-Muslims except when it is harmful to
Islam and Muslims in general. (Culled from: Ahkam al-Qur�an, al-Fatawa
al-Hindiyya, Ma�arif al-Qur�an, 2/50-51, Jawahir al-Fiqh, 179-193 and
Ifadat Ashrafiyya, P: 11)
The above clearly illustrates the need for Muslims to be moderate with
regards to their interaction with non-Muslims. Unfortunately, some
Muslims are victims of immoderation in one way or another.
Some become quite extreme in their treatment of non-Muslims, in that
they consider all kind of contact with non-Muslims to be sinful. They
are quite aggressive in their approach towards non-Muslims and also
consider Muslims who have any sort of relationship with non-Muslims to
be sinful.
This approach is incorrect, as we can see quite clearly from the verses
of the Qur�an provided above and from the practice of the Messenger of
Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and his noble Companions (Allah
be pleased with them all). These people should realize that Islam did
not spread through force or aggression, rather people inclined towards
Islam by appreciating the amazing behaviour exhibited by Muslims. Many
great personalities such as Khalid ibn al-Walid, Amr ibn al-Ass and
others (Allah be pleased with them) accepted Islam when they observed
the devastating behaviour of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him &
give him peace) in the treaty of al-Hudaybiyya. People were shocked and
amazed to see such behaviour expressed even towards enemies, hence they
were inclined towards Islam.
Today, we have a great opportunity in propagating Islam amongst
non-Muslims. There has never been a better time to do Da�wa, but it will
be the
Muslims who are either a cause of non-Muslims entering into Islam or
otherwise. Muslims must ensure that their bad manners and ill behaviour
is not a cause in preventing people from accepting Islam. If our actions
prevent others from entering this beautiful religion of Allah, then we
will be accountable for this in the hereafter.
On the other hand, some Muslims become so close and intimate with
non-Muslims to the point that there remains no difference between belief
and disbelief. The Qur�an in many verses prohibited us from loving
non-Muslims in our hearts; hence it will not be permitted to love them
and their beliefs from one�s heart. Yet, some Muslims sit, eat, live and
mingle with non-Muslims as though it does not matter whether one
believes or otherwise. This is the other extremism which must also be
avoided. A Muslim�s life has a purpose which is to live a life that is
in accordance with the commands of Allah Almighty and his beloved
Messenger (Allah bless him & give him peace), hence true love can only
be for those who share the same purpose and not for those who reject
this basic purpose of life.
Based on the above explanation, let us now look at some specific fiqhi
issues relating to Muslim � non-Muslim relationship:
Giving and accepting gifts from non-Muslims
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, one of the leading reference
works in the Hanafi School:
�Imam Muhammad (Allah have mercy on him) has recorded (apparently)
conflicting narrations in his al-Siyar al-Kabir, some indicating that
the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) accepted gifts
from non-Muslims whilst others indicate that he did not, hence it is
necessary to reconcile between these (apparently) contradicting
narrations�.
Faqih Abu Ja�far al-Hindawani stated that the narration wherein the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) did not accept the
gift of a non-Muslim is interpreted to be in the case where the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) thought that the
person giving the gift was under the impression that the Messenger of
Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) was striving in order to
acquire wealth and not to elevate the word of Allah, hence it will not
be permitted to accept a gift from such an individual in our times also.
And the narration wherein the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give
him peace) did accept the gift of a non-Muslim is where the Messenger of
Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) thought that the person giving
the gift did acknowledge that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him &
give him peace) was fighting for Islam and the elevation of the word of
Allah and not for any materialistic gain, hence it will be permitted to
accept a gift from such an individual in our times also.
Some (Hanafi) scholars reconciled (the apparently contradicting
narrations) in another way, stating that the Messenger of Allah (Allah
bless him & give him peace) did not accept a gift of a non-Muslim where
he thought that by accepting his gift his solidarity would weaken, lose
respect and would have to soften his approach, and he accepted the gift
of a person where he did not fear the abovementioned things.� (al-Fatawa
al-Hindiyya, 5/347-348)
The above text of al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya indicates that there is
nothing wrong in accepting and giving a gift to a non-Muslim provided
one does not fear any harm to one�s faith. The Messenger of Allah (Allah
bless him & give him peace) did not accept a gift from non-Muslims where
he feared that it would be harmful for the Muslims, and he accepted the
gift when there was no such fear. Rather, when there is some benefit in
giving and accepting gifts, such as the hope of one accepting Islam, one
should give and accept gifts. Yes, if one fears some harm with regards
to one�s faith, a gift should not be given or taken.
As far as giving and accepting gifts during the period of non-Muslim
religious festivals is concerned, such as at the time of Christmas,
Diwali, etc, it would be permitted, as it is not per se a religious act,
but a social custom. The intention in giving gifts is not to respect the
religious festival, rather to respect and show courtesy to the one whom
the gift is given, as pointed out by Imam Ashraf Ali al-Tahanawi (Allah
have mercy on him) in his renowned Imdad al-Fatawa, 3/482)
Therefore, it will be permitted to give and accept gifts during the
Winter Break with the intention of bringing a non-Muslim closer to
Islam, provided two conditions are met:
a) The gift should not be with the intention of celebrating a non-Muslim
festival, rather merely showing courtesy to a fellow human being,
b) The gift should not be something that is connected to the non-Muslim
religious festival, such as a Christmas tree.
Inviting non-Muslims for food and accepting
their invitation
It is permitted to invite a non-Muslim for dinner at one�s house
occasionally due to strengthening family ties or other social ties.
Without such a need, one should avoid making a habit. Similarly, it will
be permitted to accept such an invitation from a non-Muslim, provided
one is sure that the food is Halal and no other unlawful activities are
taking place. (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/347)
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) also accepted
the invitation of a non-Muslim by eating at his house (See: Ibn Qudama,
al-Mugni, 7/3) similarly, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give
him peace) invited non-Muslims to his house. (Sahih Muslim, no: 2063)
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
�Is it permissible to eat with a fire-worshipper or any other
non-believer? It has been related from Hakim Imam Abd al-Rahman al-Katib
that if a Muslim was confronted with this once or twice, then there is
nothing wrong with that, but to make a habit of doing this would be
disliked.� (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/347)
Attending non-Muslim religious festivals
It would not be permitted for a Muslim to attend the religious festivals
and ceremonies of non-Muslims, as this would entail approving of their
faith. By taking part in their religious festivals, one will be
indirectly approving of their disbelief (kufr) and their religion. The
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade Muslims
from even offering their own Salat at the time of sunrise, zenith and
sunset, for there was an element of outwardly resembling the
sun-worshippers.
Visiting a sick non-Muslim
There is nothing wrong in visiting a non-Muslim who is ill (iyada),
whether a Christian or Jew. (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/348) The Messenger
of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have visited
non-Muslims when they were ill, as it is evident from the Sunnah
literature.
Visiting and offering condolences at the time
of bereavement
It is permitted to visit a non-Muslim to offer one�s condolences for a
family bereavement. It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
�If a non-Muslim dies, one may say to the deceased�s father or some
other relative of his: �May God recompense you with someone better and
honour you with Islam, and that He bestow you with a Muslim child�� (al-Fatawa
al-Hindiyya, 5/348)
Thus, it will be permitted to visit a non-Muslim in the event of a
family bereavement, but the condolences offered should be along the
lines of him/her being bestowed by Allah with someone better than the
non-believer who died.
Attending the funeral ceremony of a non-Muslim
It is permitted to attend the funeral of a non-Muslim parent, relative,
neighbour, or associate. It is stated in al-Bahr al-Ra�iq:
�And one may follow their (i.e. a kafir�s) funeral from afar...�
(al-Bahr al-Ra'iq, 2/205)
However, it will not be permitted to attend a religious funeral
ceremony, especially when it entails praying for a non-Muslim after
his/her death. Supplicating and praying for a non-Muslim after his/her
death, sending him rewards (isal al-Thawab) and other such matters are
all unlawful. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace)
was prevented from praying for his uncle Abu Talib by Allah Most High.
Similar was the case of Sayyiduna Ibrahim (peace be upon him).
Allah Most High says:
�It is not for the Prophet and those who believe to pray for the
forgiveness of idolaters even though they may be near of kin after it
has become clear that they are people of hell-fire.� (Surah al-Tawba, V:
113)
However, it will be permitted to pray for the guidance of a non-Muslim
when he/she is alive, hoping that he/she is guided and accepts Islam. It
will also be permitted to pray for the good-health and well-being of a
particular non-Muslim. (See: al-Mawsu�a al-Fiqhiyya, Kuwait)
Non-Muslims entering the Masjid
It is permitted for Muslims to give non-Muslims permission to enter the
Masjid, especially for Da�wa purposes. It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
�There is nothing wrong with non-Muslims (dhimmis) entering the Haram of
Makka (al-Masjid al-Haram) and all other Mosques. This is the sound
opinion in the Madhhab, as mentioned in al-Muhit of Sarakhsi.� (al-Fatawa
al-Hindiyya, 5/346)
Muslims entering non-Muslim places of worship
It is prohibitively disliked (makruh) for a Muslim to enter a non-Muslim
place of worship such as a church or synagogue (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya,
5/346), unless there is some benefit that overcomes the harm.
Standing up for a non-Muslim out of respect
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
�If a non-Muslim (dhimmi) enters upon a Muslim and he (Muslim) stands up
for him; if he stands up with the hope of the non-Muslim entering Islam,
then there is nothing wrong with that. However, if one stands up without
having this intention or stands up due to the non-Muslim being wealthy,
then that is disliked.� (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/348)
Therefore, it would be permissible to stand up for a non-Muslim without
having respect for his/her faith in one�s heart, and that this is done
for some diplomatic reason, such as the hope of the non-Muslim accepting
Islam or preventing enmity and hatred. The Messenger of Allah (Allah
bless him & give him peace) also stood up for Ikrima Ibn Abi Jahl
(leader of the Quraysh) and Adi ibn Hatim (leader of the tribe of Banu
Tay) before they had accepted Islam. However, one should avoid standing
up for a non-Muslim showing respect to his faith and beliefs.
Shaking hands with non-Muslims
There is nothing wrong (la ba�s) in shaking hands of a Christian (i.e.
non-Muslim) neighbour (and other associates) after returning from a
journey (and the like) if the non-Muslim is offended by not shaking his
hands.� (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/348)
However, one must ensure not to commit anything else unlawful, such as
shaking the hands of a non-Mahram of the opposite gender.
Giving Zakat and/or other charities to
non-Muslims
There is scholarly consensus (ijma�) that Zakat cannot be given to
non-Muslims, as mentioned by Imam al-Kasani, Ibn Qudama, Buhuti, and
others. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace)
specified that Zakat is to be taken from amongst the wealthy Muslims and
distributed amongst the poor Muslims. (Sahih al-Bukhari, no: 1365)
However, it is permitted to help and assist needy non-Muslims by giving
them other forms of charity, as this would be a form of showing them
kindness and dealing justly with them, commanded by Allah Most High in
the Qur�an. Yes, if it is feared that the money will be used against
Islam and Muslims, then one must not give them any charitable
assistance.
Finally, one should always remember that our love, hate, respect and
dislike relate to actions and not the person committing these actions.
Thus, we dislike the act of disbelief (kufr) but we do not hate
non-Muslims as they are also the creation of Allah, hence non-Muslims
deserve the same rights as Muslims. May Allah Most High give us the
ability to live a life that is in accordance with His and His beloved
Messenger�s (Allah bless him & give him peace) pleasure, Ameen.
And Allah knows best
Muhammad ibn Adam
Darul Iftaa
Leicester , UK
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Edited by Full of Hopes - 15 September 2009 at 3:45pm